My husband took off a few weeks ago and won't come see his daughter. It's her first Christmas and it's already going to be ruined because he won't give me money to buy her anything, and I don't have a job. How can I make it special for her even though he won't be around? This is so important to me and I'm just devastated that we can't be a family for my daughter's first Christmas. My family is spread out throughout the country and I'm pretty sure his family will want to see her but should I take her over there since he doesn't ever want to see her himself? Otherwise, her and I will be alone most of the day. I know she won't remember it, but I will and I want to have happy photos of her to share with her when she's older. Can anyone give me an idea of how to make it special?
2006-12-16 06:38:54 · 14 answers · asked by newmom06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
what kind of relationship do you have with his family? I would definantly take her to see them. And take a camera. My guess is that daddy will be there also. It may be an eye opener to what he will be missing.
Im sure it has nothing to do with him not wanting to see his daughter. Most likely he is trying to avoid seeing you, for whatever reason.
For your babys happiness, if he will not speak to you about it, have his family talk to him about having some type of visitation with the baby. It will benefit everyone in the future.
good luck
2006-12-16 06:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Mikez Bad Girl soCal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Would Suggest Traveling To Go See Some Of Your Relatives, And Family Is What Matters Most-Christmas Isn't About Presents..I Think You And Your Daughter Should Spend The Holidays With Some Of Your Family. If They Love You, They Will Support You In Your Efforts To Raise Your Daughter As A Single Parent.
2006-12-16 06:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by ILY♥!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is her first christmas she won't remember it. To a child spending happy times and love are more imprtant than anything else. Feed her her favorite foods and it's been a great day for her. If her dad is like that, she is better off without him. Believe me I was a daughter of a dad who didn't care and never saw after age three. Thanks goodness. My mom never made me feel bad or let me know the sadness. It was good for her, it was good for me. Don't show her your sadness. I'm sure there are also assistance programs in your area, and churches. find support, not just financially either.
2006-12-16 07:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by dana j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God that's horrible!! I am sooo sorry you have to deal with this.But you know what we all seem to forget when it comes to Christmas? That the true meaning of it is spending the time with those that love you and that you love back. He doesn't love you or his daughter so to put him into that "special" day is like inviting your worst enemy to your wedding. Very UN needed.
If you want to make it special, Just be you, the women who loves her daughter more than anything in life and always show her you will be there for her.That's the most special gift not only for the holidays but all life long.
If you feel alone Christmas, I am sure you have friends or family that love you and would welcome you in to their Christmas with open arms.So, Give them a call and tell them you would like to spend that day with them. I am sure you will be enlightened.
Good luck to you, and god bless you and your baby!
2006-12-16 06:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because your husband is acting like a bum, doesn't mean his whole family is bad. By all means keep in contact with the relatives. If they invite you for Christmas, why not? They are making up for the deficiencies of your husband. Your daughter will need as much extended family as she can have, as long as they are decent.
2006-12-16 06:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st xmas means she's young. Too young to even know what xmas is. Not getting anything theis time is more hurtful for you than for her. So don't worry. That gives you a year to, get a job, get court ordered support and make xmas #2 very memorable. And thats the one she'll be able to enjoy and know whats going on.
Celebrations for infants are usually more for the parent anyway..... it's your issue not your daughters. She won't remember a thng one way or the other.
2006-12-16 07:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you because I am in the same boat. My son is only 3 months. At least you have his family's support. I don't. so yes you should take your daughter to see his family, at least then she'll get some presents from her family. Keep your head up and just keep reminding yourself that it's all for your daughter. I know the holidays suck when your family is broken, but just fake it till you make it!!
2006-12-16 06:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk... I mean - nothing wrong with it - Im sure you are worried about yourself too, because if it was only about her you would have told us like how old she is....
I would suggest you hook up with family - regardless whos side - as long as there plenty of people. Go to that place where you will meet the most of them.
Other than that you should take the kid to public christmas events taking place in the park, town centre or in the mall -
There you will have a chance to take for a lot of beautiful pictures for the album.
Just dont stress yourself - its all good and just one holiday, there will be many more of those and many perfect ones for y'all as well.
2006-12-16 06:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by ganja_claus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No daddy - teairra mari refrain is: i aint had no daddy while i used to be developing up that is why im wild and dont provide a **** yall suppose motive those denims have compatibility imma provide it ujp dont permit my cujte face idiot ya
2016-09-03 15:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take her to your husbands family and spend it with people that will love you and your child like their own. Your husband made a choice and from what i gather his family may not agree with that choice so go take her someplace she will feel loved.
2006-12-16 06:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋