My sister is a Christian, I am Wiccan. She knows and doesn't accept my beliefs. She plans on telling my mother that she doesn't think I should be allowed at Christmas dinner because I dont celebrate the holiday. I want to be there to spend time with my family and because it's a family tradition. She thinks they shouldn't even accept the gifts I have bought them. What's the best way to resolve this?
2006-12-16 06:38:24 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I grew up Christian, the rest of my family is Episcopalian except my other sister who is a closet Atheist (I'm the only one who knows). I converted to Wicca when I was 22. I agree that Christmas came from Pagan origins, but she thinks "Jesus is the Reason" Its okay with me if she thinks that, but she's just trying to be self righteous by getting me banned from Xmas dinner. I might mention my mom is an excellent cook.
2006-12-16 06:46:31 · update #1
The Bible is NOT the only religion to have things proven in it. Wicca has too. And so does just about every other religion.
2006-12-16 06:51:40 · update #2
Wicca is a religion with a core set of beliefs.
See my answer here.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Am1NMC1R55xoXdWw83s2kkXsy6IX?qid=20061215025244AAILdiK&show=7#profile-info-6623a9d5baa4405cfc69c1cd904e4993aa
2006-12-16 06:54:03 · update #3
I guess I should've mentioned that my sister is threatening not to come and not to bring my parents ONLY grandchild.
2006-12-16 07:07:01 · update #4
He's 5 months old, his name is Cameron and I'm not allowed to be alone with him because of my beliefs. I held him once for like 30 seconds and my sister said, "that's enough of that" The funny thing is that Sarah. ,my sister, was an Atheist until she met her husband.
2006-12-16 07:08:34 · update #5
Wow! I feel so sorry that you have to go thru that. I follow Jesus best I can and have read the Bible cover to cover about 20 times. My adopted sis' is Wiccan and I ate Thankgiving dinner at Her house and She gave thanks for the meal. She nodded to me first but I was too slow and it was her house so it was her call anyway. I guess it depends on the difference between those who call themselves christians and those who actually are Christians, cause real Christians would have no problem at all. Wiccans do celebrate the holiday tho, they just call it something different. And Jesus was born in the springtime anyway. Be humble and loving and please don't condemn them for this ignorance or you will wind up bitter. Educate yourself and be patient as much as you can. Peace.
2006-12-16 06:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by TheNewCreationist 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your sister is a little overzealous in her faith and using it to puff herself up. It says nothing in the bible about pagans/wiccan/secular whomever, NOT partaking of a celebration because they are not christian. It would be different if you asked her to perform some wiccan ritual or said a wiccan blessing over the food...might make it uncomfortable for her, but how unkind for her to do that to you. The only celebration that unbelievers and specifically said not to partake in, I believe, is the Lord's Supper at church for the symbolic reason behind what it means. But Christmas is a christian made holiday, not a religeous one and you should be allowed to enjoy the spirit of that celebration. You tell your sister to show you where it says you can't enjoy Christmas in the Bible...she'll be guffawed. If anything, a loving christian sister would more than welcome you into a celebration as an opportunity to show you the love of Christ. Good luck and I'm sorry you have to go through this. I would so totally accept your gift and I'm a fundie.
2006-12-16 06:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by sheepinarowboat 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be allowed to attend the Christmas dinner, because to you, it will just be a dinner. If it is a family tradition, there should be no reason to change it. On the other hand, the religion Wicca and Christianity to not mix very well. Christianity has the Bible and many part of it have been historically proven. It is the only religion to have PROVEN that things in its religion (which means the Bible) did actually occur. Wicca is a very odd choice of a religion. It seems more of a lifestyle than a religion. And many people think of it disapprovingly because it started righted after a movement with the witches who thought that they could produce spells. Hah.
2006-12-16 06:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by Ladeedah 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, you could always tell her that Christmas originated from the Paegan festivals of Solstice. Your mother should be able to make up her own mind. Who is hosting the Christmas dinner? If it's at your sister's house, unfortunately she has a right to be a hateful bigot and not invite you. If it's at your mother's house, you have a right to go and be with your family. It sounds like you have the right idea of what the holidays are all about--being with the people you love and celebrating traditions. If your sister gets all uppity, remind her that Jesus preached about love and acceptance.
2006-12-16 06:44:45 · answer #4 · answered by ivybear98 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So your Sister is a Christian is she????? Sounds about typical!
But that's not what you asked is it? How to resolve this?
I have to admit that when I first read your question my first reaction was full of bile, I am atheist and have no time for any religion (esp Christianity) and to be honest not a lot of time for Wiccans, but each to their own I suppose.
I have kids and Gran kids I see them growing up into various religious sects, I have no intention of trying to lead them away from whatever they wish to believe . I love them all, and I'm sure your Mother feels the same way about both her daughters, so just 'go with the flow' let your sister do her worse, dont have a big family bust up over this piffling issue, ignore it.
2006-12-16 07:01:48 · answer #5 · answered by budding author 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well actually Christmas is rightfully pagan and Christian. The original feast was Saturnalia that was hijacked by the Christians and combined with the feast of St. Nicholas. So, I see it that wiccans and Christians should be able to find meaning in this holiday.
2006-12-16 06:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by jonathan x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister she is sinning in the Christian religion by passing judgement on you.
Besides, as others have stated, Christmas comes from a Pagan holiday (Yule to be precise).
2006-12-16 06:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd smile and tell her that as a Wiccan you're able to accept the beliefs of others without judging them as right or wrong. You hope some day she'll be able to do the same. Until then, you love her anyway, and hope she'll accept your gifts in the spirit in which they were intended...as a symbol of your love for your family.
2006-12-16 06:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by Kaia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell that this Christian man is giving her some advice from the Bible. It comes from Paul.
Sister in Christ. Your sister here on earth is not a Christian, you have no right to judge her. You cannot. The woman does no know what you and I know, she is of this world. You have the right; and it is a God given right to judge and teach your brothers and sisters in Christ. That is your obligation to our Lord. But not the world. That is left to God! He will make His judgements and you cannot do this for Him.(You haven't the wit nor wisdom.) No human has the wit nor the wisdom for judging the world.
Judge me my sister, not your sister nor your neighbour nor any outside of our Lord's church.
When the Christ said " judge not lest you be judged" he wasn't laying down a commandment! He was teaching us a fact of life. If you pass judgement on your sister who is not of Christ's church then you can expect a much harsher judgement from others. We are Christians, we are to Love. Have you not learned this yet? The Christ said so when He answered what the greatest commandment was? Jesus said to love our God with everything we have; first and foremost. Then we are to love our neighbour as we want to be loved. These He said are the two greatest commands there are. So that leaves only one compelling and intelligent reason for us to exist ... "to love".
If you really have faith in Christ Jesus and if you really want to live your faithe in love then I would suggest the power of prayer. Our Holy Father will hear and He will grant what is right. Do you think it is right that your sister miss out on an eternity with our God? If you don't then pray. Keep on praying every day of your life until He answers this request of love for your sister.
But don't judge her. Judge me. I know where you are speaking from. When you do judge be sure it is for God's love towards one of our own who has erred.
God bless and forgive.
2006-12-16 06:58:49 · answer #9 · answered by the old dog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have tolerance with your sister. Speak with your Mother about your concerns and your desire to hold this tradition with your family. I don't see how your sister can get you thrown out of a family event just because of what you believe.
Remain balanced, and do not show contempt or anger for your sister's non-understanding of your evolution.
Merry Christmas!
2006-12-16 07:11:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋