What is the best way for a guy to get your attention at a club?It always seems that us guys usually ask a girl to dance and if she does we think that she likes us.Ive learned that this is not ussually true.Ive also told my friends that just cause a girl doesnt want to dance doesnt mean that she is not interested.Is this true for you?Would you rather a guy ask you to dance or try to talk to you without rushing you out onto the dancefloor.Should we offer a drink or will it seem like we're trying to hard or just trying to get you drunk?Im single again and trying to meet new people.I guess I've had it too easy with my last two relationships because they persued me.So what do you think would be a good conversation starter at a club?Is asking your name to forward or should we try to say somthing funny?Should we catch you alone or when your with your friends?Please be Honest.
2006-12-16 06:14:47 · 7 answers · asked by Sincere923 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, in my opinion...If a guy asks me to dance and I don't feel especially attracted to him, I tell him no thanks. What gets me is a fabulous smile and I like it when a guy comes up to me and introduces himself and starts a conversation.
2006-12-16 06:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The games people play.
The trick is you will have become a mind and body lanaguge reader. Bring your own spot light and get ready to go on a massive seek and find mission in the dark.
Your mission or purpose at the club may not always be the same for the ladies that you approach. So you're better off not having a mission at all. Just go and have fun. The woman you're looking for in the club may be disguising herself. While you're looking for her, she may have already spotted you.
So relax, be yourself, be polite, dance, and have a good time.
Bring your brain with you (so you'll be able to have a conversation) and lay low on the drinks (they make you sound stupid at times.)
Remember: some females feel really sexy out on the dance floor and just because she's dancing provocative, it does not mean it is a free pass for you to reach out and touch! Some females are there to just be with their friends, and it may not be the night that they're there to be picked up by men. Some women like to really dance, and dancing is all they want to do. And if you find someone like that, it is likely your face is invisible to them, you're just a dancing partner and nothing more. Then there are some women who are there to get laid just like some men are. Some are there to get drunk to wash their pains and sorrow away for whatever reason. And yes believe it or not, they are even some there to hope to find a man they can call their own.
So where do you start? You start by having your own agenda and go from there. Don't force yourself onto someone, and don't let yourself be had. Go slow, examine the room, the floor, the bar, and even the door. Be yourself, and let the chemistry go to work.
It may sound hard and confusing - but the key is to just chill. Don't be too nerdy, or draw too much attention to yourself and don't talk too much. Be observant and calm.
Good luck.
2006-12-16 14:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all a club is not the only place to meet girls, you should try other avenues. like evening classes, volunteer work and Internet dating sites, just be honest with what you write in your profile.
In a club usually sending a drink is better, some girls don't like to dance, it depends on the person.
I find clubs a difficult place to meet people; it's loud, crowded and it's hard to have a good conversation.
But like I said. Send a drink through the bartender. if she comes over then she will at least talk to you and if not then move on to the next one. At least you are out there and trying.
good luck
Irene
2006-12-16 14:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think striking up a conversation is best. Guys who are confident (not arrogant) and funny are really attractive. And please, for the love of God, don't be creepy!! (i.e., stare at her like she's a piece of meat, be aggressive)
Personally, I think asking the girl to dance straight off the bat is not a good idea...she might say yes, but not necessarily be interested or will say no, even though she might have if you talked to her first. Buying her a drink might be a good idea, but it really depends on the girl.
2006-12-16 14:37:57 · answer #4 · answered by adangerousidea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start off by asking her name, then say funny things and try to figure out what she likes to start a conversation. If you ask her to dance, and if she says no, that probably means that shes not interested in you. But if she says yes, it could mean shes interested but she might just want to be nice about it. offer her a drink if all goes good.
2006-12-16 14:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by catqueen9087 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hon i dont go clubbin n i dont think that is the best place to find a love relationship. u dont rush a woman talk ask her name tell ur ask if she is seein someone her age and u know stuff like that then u proceed to askin her to dance u can meet again xchange numbers call each other get to know one another and see where it goes and all the best
2006-12-16 14:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by thebeautifultakiesha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women often don't have a clue why they go with this or that guy they only THINK they do. So you shouldn't ask women but men that always score. Don't you have any friends that always score???
2006-12-16 14:31:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋