My dad passed away this february and I hate talking about him, but obviously "Dad" comes up in a convo....

Question

- and I dont want to bring it up because people start asking questions and it gets so uncomfortable.

Answer 1

My dad died whan I was 11 (a few years ago). I know it is hard to talk about. People who have never last a close relative expect you to grow up and get on with your life. They just don't understand. When they want you to talk about it, just say "i don't want to" or "Don't worry about it" or if they keep asking, just say "Please stop, I really don't want to talk about it." it might come across as mean sometimes, but they will get the picture. About a week ago, I was going shopping with some people in my church, and this little girl asked me if i had a dad. She was about 6 years old, so she really didn't know any better. She kept on asking questions and I finally said, ' I did have one, but he died." She kept on asking questions like when, how, and the worst, why. i was about to cry, so I said, "Please stop asking questions. it really makes me sad to talk about it." Then she stopped. My friend that was there just smiled at me and asked if I was O.K. She knew how much I didn't like to talk about it. The whole time, she was trying to get the little girl to talk about something else, like basketball, or soccer.

What I am trying to say is, there are ways you can get people to stop asking you questions.

I hope this helped. i will be praying for you and your family.

Answer 2

My dad died unexpectantly two years ago new years day. I was 23 and my brother was 20, but it was just the three of us, as far as family goes, within 2000 miles. Since I was the oldest, my parents were divorced, and he had to living will or anything like that I was the one who had to handle everything from calling all his friends and family to getting an attorney to handle his estate. It sounds weird, but with every phone call it got easier, and it helped me accept the fact that he was gone. I talk about my dad all the time because we were so close and remembering the good times we had makes me smile, even though i still may cry and i miss him so much, id rather remember and shed a few tears then forget him alltogether. My brother doesnt like to talk about my dad though, and he feels much like you do. I think its because he didnt have a way to deal with it or anyone to eally help him through it. My advice is to find someone you trust to talk about your feelings with. Its always hard and everyone is different and will deal with things in their own way. Dont let anyone make you feel that you have to deal with it their way, but you do have to deal with it some way, and ignoring it doesnt count! Good luck sweetie, and God bless!

Answer 3

particular! My mom suffered different strokes. She did not comprehend who i became anymore.She could not feed herself or maybe swallow! She might in simple terms lie there screaming all day long.i'm sorry yet there comes a time while they could be placed to sleep.She does not have wanted to be like that and be this way of burden to anybody round her.It nevertheless hurts me to think of roughly it! She became a shell of the guy she was once! extremely while she did die she had a component referred to as slip it extremely is while the physique is ineffective and decaying in the past the midsection stops beating. the exterior splits open! OMG!! They placed down animals in much less soreness and affliction! If i will have i might have injected the deadly dose myself.She has long gone to a lots extra suitable place ! Thank God! ?

Answer 4

Just try to remember all the great times you had with him. It might also help just to tell others that you're still grieving for him and that its just too painful to talk about him. I lost my dad 6 years ago and sometimes (especially at xmas and father's day) its still hard not to cry when i think of him. hang in there.

Answer 5

It's part of the grieving process - to talk about our loved ones -

I like to remember the fun times we had together - yeah, it's a shame they aren't here anymore, but by remembering and talking about Mom and Dad, their sweet memory lingers

and this is the toughest part of the year

Answer 6

If asked about your father in a conversation, simply say "He passed away earlier this year and I still don't feel comfortable talking about it".
Most people will take the hint, express their condolences and move on to a different topic.

Sorry for your loss.

Answer 7

I'm sorry to hear that...I hope you'll be more comfortable to talk about him in the future. It's been 10 months and I hope you're healing. Try to remember that he's watching over you and wants you to enjoy your life and be happy and not to worry about anything.

Answer 8

It is hard when you lose one or both of your parents - I lost my father when I was ten and I still miss him - so talk about him - and you will feel better!`

Answer 9

sorry to hear that,i think you have to deal with it.sorry