....when I plan to entertain friends but only want to invite 'certain' friends in our circle and not everyone. Seems to be a problem when you hang with a set group of people. My husband says I shouldn't feel like I HAVE to invite EVERYONE, EVERY time. Anyone feel the same? How can I justify leaving people out and is it necessary to explain my reasons to those not invited?
2006-12-16 05:58:23 · 3 answers · asked by coronationcats 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
That's always a hard thing to deal with. Sometimes you need to include only the ones your most friendly with, and yet, how do you do it without hurting others? Maybe occassionally invite just a few, and at other times invite everyone, so no one feels left out all the time.
2006-12-16 06:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you should start with one couple or 2 at a time. Maybe if you have tickets to an event but only 2 extra type thing (or you could say that at least). I know what you mean about inviting everyone...it's hard to not hurt feelings. I would just invite everyone personally, the more the merrier. But if you don't invite some people they may want and in some cases deserve an explanation. You should be honest with them and say, maybe next time or if you don't consider them as close a friend then just say that...it's better to just be honest than avoid conflict. They may feel the same way you do. Just don't be offended if you aren't invited to something next time.
2006-12-16 14:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by az 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just invite one couple at a time or a couple and a single friend, it will not seem rude to your other friends. That makes it a more intimate evening, rather than a big dinner party. The basic rule is five people total or less, and it shouldn't hurt other's feelings.
2006-12-16 14:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by scriptorcarmina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋