To buy present for a special girl?

Question

For the ladies,

I hooked up with a girl only last week of the Autumn University Semester. We are making out, going out but not boyfriend and girlfriends yet and that I would love to take this to a higher level as I see so much that is so special in her.

She really likes me but just want to take things slow.

So now, merely a week after we started going out, we are going to be seperated by distance for an entire month due to holidays.

Am I looking too desperate by calling her every 2-3 days? And should I get her a classy Xmas present ($ not an issue anyway), or will it freak her out? Pls keep in mind we have only gone out for roughly a week. I would appreciate any advice on keeping this fast and furious relationship alive during this time of seperation.

Thanks

Enrico

Answer 1

it is traditional to have oranges or satsumas at christmas. get her a bag of them.

Answer 2

Hey i totally understand yr girl's view on not to take things 2 fast... for me i would like 2 see my BF get romantic and really try too make a lasting impression on me before i take things 2 the next level.... i would normally recommend a nice restaurant and some flowers but because money is not an issue Is add a necklace or a charm Bracelet( that has charms of all the things u guys have done 2gether. Ex. if u guys both like riding horses then add a horse to your Bracelet) it would probably really surprise her. if she still feels that u aren't serious enough.. give her the present and tell her that even though she isn't ready now .. the Bracelet is a reminder of all the times u spent with her ( which were all
x-tremly special ) mayb she'll change her mind but i am definately not reassuring tat fact.... as a girl i know about mood swings !!!!!!

hope u get her!!!!!

Answer 3

If she wants to take things slowly - don't buy her a really expensive gift, it will either make her feel like you are pressuring her to move faster, or that you are trying to make her feel guilty about wanting to take things slow. Both of these will put added strain on the relationship - not something you want.

Calling every two to three days might be a bit much, but talk to her about it. Tell her that you enjoy talking to her and would like to know if she would be ok will you calling her during the break. When she says yes, ask her what her schedule is like - she might be really busy and only have a free period on, say (for example) Thursday at 3 and would want you to call then so she could actually talk to you.

If you do want to get her something, other than a sweet card, find a little trinket that she'll like. If she likes cats and you saw a really cute cat somewhere, go ahead. A good price range would be under $20 - remember, too expensive and it might look like you're trying to pressure her.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Yea, you should get her something. She'll remember you when you two are separated for the holidays. Calling her every 2 or 3 days isn't desperate, but you shouldn't call that frequently so she'll miss you for a while and understand how important/special you are to her. Stop calling for a week and see if she'll call you first instead. If by the 7th day and she doesn't call first, call her and call her again 3 days later.

Answer 5

I would call her less often maybe every 5-7 days and get a nice present but not too expensive like no more than $25. Also try this site for some ideas: http://www.gifts.com/ Not a picture of yourself or a gift card either you don't know what stores she has.

Answer 6

look , you will see her again.. relax.. when you are all stressed out, she will notice. be cool. let her make some calls.. let it go for a couple days... if it were me, id just tell her where i stand.. then she knows and if she is or could be at the same point, then good.. if she isnt, or cant be , then it saves you from being hurt down the road.. my advice may not be your best route, but this is the type of person i am. swift and right to the point

Answer 7

I think if she has told you she wants to take it slow that an appropriate gift would be flowers and a card. I think you should ask her if you can call her while she is away and let her lead you as to how many times.

Answer 8

I wouldn't be freak out by a present I would think it was romantic


y/w

Answer 9

ENRICO, YOU SOUND LIKE A GREAT GUY! I THINK, SINCE $ IS NOT A BIG ISSUE, THAT A GIFT CERTIFICATE TO A LOCAL DAY SPA WOULD BE MUCH APPRECIATED. IT'S A GREAT GIFT FOR ANY WOMAN BUT IT ALSO SAYS YOU CARE ABOUT HER COMFORT. NICE JOB!

Answer 10

ask her what she likes