ok well my friends and i went 2 her boyfriends house the other night and his really cute friend i have been crushing on 4 months was there... so.... my friend ditchs me and leaves me with the cute guy all alone then he asked me was i ready i said yea but im also scared... then we heard my friend like screaming so i got scared and jus left sooooo willllllll sombody tell me da truth does intercourse really hurt that bad???????????
2006-12-16 05:20:56 · 32 answers · asked by *K00KiE* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know what? You're not quite ready yet and it's perfectly fine! You should not give up your V Card for just any guy. Wait wait wait somemore...I'm not saying until your married, but you will KNOW when you are ready and you will KNOW if its with the guy you are ready FOR and you will NOT be nervous. There is no rush to use and loose this special precious moment. NO GUY is worth YOU if they get mad at you for saying NO, Your not the right guy, or I'm not ready. WHEN the times DOES come, you will not be so anxious about the pain...and yes, there is some pain or discomfort involved for a short time. But when you are not truly ready, the pain could actually be worse for you. Just wait. Your time will come naturally.
2006-12-16 05:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by ♀♥☼ alycat☼♥♀ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not ready, don't rush into sex. It hurts if you are nervous because your muscles tense up and there is no natural lubrication. Wait until you are completely comfortable. A four month crush doesn't sound like Mr. Right. Truth is, he will probably not talk to you once he's had his way with you. Guys don't respect girls who are 'easy' and will lie to have sex. Please wait, your virginity is something sacred that you can only give away once. Save it for someone special who loves you. Also, do not forget the seriousness of STD's and pregnancy!
2006-12-16 05:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by Swirlgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends on what you mean by "hurt". There will be some discomfort the first few times, but (hopefully) you won't need pain medication when your done.
My I also suggest that you are sure you are ready before you do anything. And dont let the fear of losing a "cute guy" get in the way of YOU BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF!
2006-12-16 05:30:55 · answer #3 · answered by Ron K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no sweetheart it doesn't hurt that badly. If I remember correctly it's a bit uncomfortable the first time but, not screaming meany bad. That is of course if you have a gentle lover. A guy CAN hurt you even if you're not a virgin if he wants. It's been a long time since I was a virgin though. When you find a guy you truly love you won't be afraid, that I do know.
2006-12-16 05:28:03 · answer #4 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's with a BOY who has no idea what he is doing YES.The first time should be a nice experience.You should take it easy and be with someone who understands IT MAY HURT YOU. Do it with someone you really trust and feel safe with hon and always protect yourself.Planning is everything and with the right man it can be a very warm loving experience. Don't do it just because everyone else did it.
2006-12-16 05:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by Meemi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, your friend sounds like she was puttin on a bit of a show. I'm not gonna lye. It hurts! But as long as you really think you like this guy, don't be scared. That only makes it worse. Just relax and think about breathing. After the first coulpe of times it gets way better. Just please be safe and responsible. You don't want kids until your ready.
2006-12-16 05:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by Ashpo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time, it hurts a little! If the guy is really big it might hurt, if you are dry it will hurt, if he doesn't know what he is doing and hits your cervix, it may hurt. Your first time should be with someone that cares about you so that he will do whatever makes you comfortable and will not just be after getting his rocks off!
2006-12-16 05:26:12 · answer #7 · answered by Andrew P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound a little bit too young & naive to be having sex, and too immature. You should always wait til the right time & make sure the person you have sex with is the right person. Sex is always better if you have it with the one you love. But to answer your question, depending on how tight or loose you are, and how big he is, that's how much it will hurt. Be prepared to bleed, it might be embarressing but it's normal. &&; don't forget to use protection.
2006-12-16 05:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends.... some women, depending on body type, hurt bad... if your skinny i would imagine it hurts.. take it slow.. real slow.. make sure above anything else your protected.. this is sssooooo important... worry about this over pain, as the pain goes away, aids doesnt.. take it from a womanizer, make sure your ready. dont do it to fit in or make friends or try and get a guy. that guy will be long gone once he gets you.. its just a game most of the time... sorry to break this to you
2006-12-16 05:25:08 · answer #9 · answered by calebadan1973 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It only hurts if you haven't broken your hymen, and anything can break your hymen. Even riding a horse can break it sometimes.
Does it hurt? Not really. Your first time it feels odd, but that's it.
I'm pretty sure she wasn't scream out in pain, more like in ectasy.
If you aren't ready for sex yet, don't do it. This is your body and you control it.
2006-12-16 05:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋