My sister has been sexually active since she was 11. I decided to do the right thing and protect her by not telling anyone. Now my parents found out and they are mad at me for keeping her secret. I got in trouble even though I did the right thing. What can I do about it now?
2006-12-16 05:09:34 · 19 answers · asked by Emily 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your sister is gonna do what she wants regardless, I just hope you were telling her about protecting herself. For your parents , let them know that you didnt want to turn your back on your sister but you were looking out for her
2006-12-16 05:13:29 · answer #1 · answered by o'juiccy1 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well if nothing else you are certainly convinced you were doing the right thing. What if she was snorting coke though. Would you have told them then that she was hurting herself? And why are you right to think that an 11 yo should be having sex in the first place. Few people(besides pedos) would back you on that idea. The sad part is that she is now faced with lifelong emotional and maybe physical damages due to your "rightness". Do you realize how hard it could be for her to have kids later on because of her sexaul activity at that age. Maybe you should get real one time and own up to the fact that you were negligent in the duties of an older sibling.
2006-12-16 05:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by Meatball ;) 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there is very little you can do. However, I would really not expect my sons (four) any of them to tell on the other. They are all very close and do not tell on each other. I would not be mad at them for this reason, I would respect their rights to have such admiration and respect for each other. What do they think they could have done if they did know? I believe it is their responsibility as the parents to know what their children are doing, not the responsibility of the siblings to do the parents job. However, if they had asked you a direct question regarding if you knew she was having sex or not, then I would expect a direct and honest answer of what you knew. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-16 05:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well...you were being a good sister by keeping ur sisters secret
but
you were being a bad sister by not looking out for her best interest.
11 year olds are NOT emotionally, or socially ready to have sex...it really was too young, especially if she wasn't using a condom. Your parents should know because obviously they need to talk to your sister about things.
perhaps you should have told them and asked them not to tell how they found out.
its a moot point anywyas. what should you do now? maybe talk to your parents about why you kept the secret, but you understand now why they needed to know (if you truely do) and you are sorry. tell them you'll be sure to let them know things if it concerns yours or your sisters health or well being. and tell ur sister that you have this policy with your parents too. that way it's fair.
2006-12-16 05:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by sunkist3122 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is your opinion you protect her, More people will tell you, you would have protect her better by speaking about it with your parents.
I don't know at what age the legal sexual majority is in your country, but it is probably not less than 14; so, you could get in troubles because you did something unlawful.
I am not even speaking about the other possible damages...
2006-12-16 05:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by klaartedubois 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you didn't do the right thing...11..?? You gotta be kidding. As long as you believe you did the right thing, you can't fix it, I would be mad at you too.
You can only fix it if you start to understand that what you did was wrong, it was, I have a feeling that somewhere deep down inside, you know that already.
You need to think more about your sisters well being and less about keeping her secret.....you did the wrong thing, understand that and then you can start to fix it...
2006-12-16 05:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
11 IS very young to be sexually active...you actually did not do your sister any favors by not ensuring her safety and health. HOWEVER, this is a BIG responsibility that perhaps is unfair to say you are soley responsible for. You are probably not much older than her. It's very unfortunate, these circumstances, but try to bear in mind that your parents are probably feeling disappointed, shocked, and guilty. Give them and yourself time to bounce back and I pray that in the end, your family will become one unit once again.
2006-12-16 05:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by ♀♥☼ alycat☼♥♀ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie i don't think you did the right thing by not telling your parents. there are so many std's out there and if your sister didn't use a condom even once she could have gotten anything from aids to warts and back again. not to mention she could have ended up getting pregnant and at that age it would have been devastating. now i don't think strict punishment is really in order here but you need to understand that your sister could have really gotten hurt and that would be on your conscience for now telling at least your mom.
2006-12-16 05:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by maggie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do the right thing by not telling. You should of told. 11 is just to soon to be having sex.
2006-12-16 05:27:06 · answer #9 · answered by Shavon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do the right thing. You should have told your parents right away. You are her sister and should have looked out for her. What you both did was wrong. I hope next time you'll go to your parents.
2006-12-16 05:37:51 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You did not do the right thing! No 11 year old is responsible enough to be having sex!!
2006-12-16 05:12:08 · answer #11 · answered by Mimi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋