To make a long story short, i have been with my boyfriend for 18mo. we live together, he has 4 kids from a previous married (his ex is a psycho). he used to be a hard core partier and drank a lot, now he does not. we have started fighting over everything lately. he had a rough past, and it rears its ugly head a lot, and when i get upset he basically gets mad and tells me to get over it. i work 3 jobs and when it's the weekend time he will sit at home and do dumb projects and if i text him he won't respond EVER, and then when he does he will get mad at me for getting mad. see? just stupid **** that is avoidable. he broke up with me 4 months ago, then we got back together. he says he bought a ring, but he has said that before. we spend every waking moment together and all we do is argue. we're even fighting now cause he is painting his car and it isn't going well and he's mad that i expected him to text me today while im at work! ugh, what the hell is going on here?
2006-12-16 04:38:28 · 6 answers · asked by questiongal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
note: he just called to apologize, but when i asked him to bring me lunch, how convenient, his car was wet and he can't drive! am i being annoying? or are these things that normal boyfriends do? i just can't handle him anymore, i have way to much other stress in my life....
2006-12-16 04:53:10 · update #1
Do you really want to take on all of that baggage?
YES this relationship is going somewhere.
STRAIGHT TO HELL.
Get out now!
Because if you wait to long to get out, you will probably end up having to pay child support for all of those kids
P.S.
I Just got your additional information and no you are not being annoying! He probably can't drive because he is drinking and/or doing drugs behind your back while you are at work and he knows you wont catch him.
Why are you at work while he is sitting at home anyway?
If he does take you to court for child support someday the judge will look at who earns the most money.
They always rule that the children should maintain the same standard of living so the biggest bread winner ends up paying for years and years even if you have never been married and the kids are not yours.
TRUST ME ON THIS ONE!
I have seen this happen time after time.
AND YES EVEN TO WOMEN.
I know you are very attached at this time and it won't be easy.
BUT IT IS GOING TO END SOMEDAY ANYWAY!
good luck.
2006-12-16 04:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by Dave Yours Truly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need a PhD to see that your relationship is maxed out. It's difficult to see your situation from an outsiders point of view, isn't it? It's hard to subtract your emotions and equate what your relationship is worth. I would say that daily arguments= bad. I would also say if he doesn't text you, that doesn't mean he doesn't care. Guys don't call and trext as often as women would like. If you are both willing and able to work things out you future may improve, but if you don't see a good future with him, just think: would you be willing to be married with your own children in this mix and also having that obligation (marriage/kids) to work things out with this man? It's a daunting tast to find the best guy for you but NEVER settle, NEVER feel that this is all you can do. When people say your better off alone and lonely it's no joke! Bad relationships can make you physically sick and ruin your life where good relationships can prolong your health and make life worth living. I wouldn't play games with yourself. Figure out what you want and make the best decision you can based on fact, not emotion. Also, pray about it as much as possible. Good luck!
2006-12-16 12:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by Tim W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!! Sounds like you guys need to spend a quiet evening together. Your 3 jobs Is stress alone. When do you have time for him? Taking some time away from the kids, the jobs and life Itself can show you where all your love have been hiding. I'm sure the man you fell In love with Is still there you just need to bring him back out.
2006-12-16 12:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by passion 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If u think some things can be sorted out with some time or possibly some communication , well then there is a chance, but it looks bad at the moment.
2006-12-16 12:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by vio_prince 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry but he is not your guy you might think for now that he does but men are soposed to help with problems not scream you dont diserve some one who treats you that way there are more men not just him dont tourcher yourself find a new man
2006-12-16 12:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are wasting you time give him his walking papers, you have no communication and he obvious does not care what you think. to much unnecessary drama
2006-12-16 12:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by Brook Lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋