I've been dating this guy for nine months, now. We're happy; he's a year younger than me, and more recently, we've been seeing each other less and less due to school and all that good stuff. Last night, he went to some battle of the bands thing with me, except I was totally fixated on the bass player for one of the bands...We've talked before, and I've "crushed" on him before while I've had my boyfriend. I don't want to lose my boyfriend, becasuse I do love him, but I can't get that other guy outta my head! I'm really stuck, so, can anyone help me out?
2006-12-16 04:21:48 · 8 answers · asked by 0akland 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
end it now. you obviously have issues with commitment.
2006-12-16 04:23:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok... one is a crush and the other is a relationship that you have actually invested time in. The crush could potentially be a one night stand and you have to ask yourself, is that worth terminating the happiness you feel now? Your fixation with the bass player is merely an infatuation and even if you broke it off with your current man, things would most likely not work out and you would be left regretting what you gave up.
It is human to want more than what you got but you also have to accept that having more would probably end up costing more that you are willing to pay. I'd say stay with the one who makaes you happy and find other things to distract you from the "crushing Bass player".
2006-12-16 04:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't end it if its a good relationship. Just because you have a crush on someone doesnt' mean that you care for your man any less. You just find the bass player attractive and there isn't anything wrong with that just dont make a move on him And if you feel like you might then don't put yourself around him.
2006-12-16 04:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean that you won't be attracted to other people. But because you're in a relationship, you should control how you respond to that attraction.
You have to ask yourself if ending a great relationship to pursue a crush is going to be worth while. You may be turning your back on something good for something that is just a fantasy. You might be better off letting the crush subside, they always do.
2006-12-16 04:25:52 · answer #4 · answered by LifesAMystery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl don't sweat it because it happens all the time even people who are married can notice someone or even develop a small crush. But you are loyal and you won't do anything about it. Its okay and you sound perfectly normal to me so i don't think you need to worry. It will pass. Keep your bf especially if he treats you good and you are comfortable with him..god knows thats hard to find. :)
2006-12-16 04:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by hunnysbeckers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its only fair to your boyfriend that you ditch the bass player...unless you really do want to end it with your boyfriend cuz otherwise that isnt very nice... you always want the grass on the other side of the fence. But also remember that you only miss something once it is gone. good luck.
2006-12-16 04:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your boyfriend, leave him now
2006-12-16 04:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that is hard. u will have 2 decide that urself
2006-12-16 04:24:42 · answer #8 · answered by pwned 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋