What are the stages of dating?

Question

I know I'm old enough that I should know this one, but I don't. I'm 30 (w/kids) and I'm dating a guy who's also 30 (w/kids).
I've come to realize that I never learned how to date "the right way". I just jump in with both feet and move way too fast.
I want this time to be better, more healthy. So I would like to know what the "normal" relationship functions like.
*my last relationship lasted for 7 years, so I'm not completely ignorant, it's just the beginning steps I'm having trouble with.
I think I forgot what little I knew about dating since it's been so long.

Also, he and I live an hour apart, I don't really have a sitter, so going on dates is hard to work out, and we are both a little broke at the moment.
I guess what I'm looking for is basic time line guides.
He and I both completely adore one another, we're just having a hard time figuring out how to make it work with our current situations.
Sorry if this is confusing, but I'm confused, so I can't really be expected to make sense

Answer 1

The basic rules of dating are hard to apply when you both have children. I would get involved with group activities you can share with both sets of kids. Take everyone to the mall, for example. If the kids are older you can let them split off and do their shopping for an hour while you and your man hang out - if they are small you can help corral the kids together at a playground or something and then go home for some Sesame Street videos while you and your man hang out.

Don't worry about the rules. Once you have kids, they very often run your life and guide your relationships. If they like him and his family, there is long term hope for your relationship. If they can't all get along, you might as well save yourself the trouble or just arrange dates when they are asleep for a short term liason - if you know what I am saying.

I can tell you that i am a jump right in kind of girl myself My husband and I were engaged in 2 weeks and married within 6 months and we are still very happy after 7 years and 2 kids together (and we are both around 40 yrs old). It's not how you have a relationship - it is who you do it with.

Peace!

Answer 2

The only "right way" is the right way for you.

Move at your own pace, maybe you could have an activity where you could bring your children so you don't have to hire a sitter. At some point, though, you are going to want to spend some quality alone time without the kids. Good luck

Answer 3

Don't move in on this guy so fast because then he will probably think u are so easy to get into your pants and or will might cheat on you with some other chick

Answer 4

First base. That's all for the first month. Then, whatever happens happens.

Answer 5

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