In the past, I've had girlfriends cheat on me, ending in very bad breakups. I started to date someone about 6 months ago, and still can't fully trust her. To my knowledge shes never cheated on me, or anything like that. We got into a big argument last night. She started yelling, saying that I call to much, I want hang out most of the week, I'm to needy, and that I'm starting to drive her away with all of this. I honestly don't know what to do. When she gets mad she tells me that she doesn't know if she wants to be with me, or if she loves me anymore, then when shes fine again she says she loves me and all of that. What can I do, and how can I fix this???
2006-12-16 03:57:24 · 7 answers · asked by zach j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are doing the classic relationship f----up. You are bringing your excess baggage into your new relationship. This is the quickest way to ruin any relationship. If you have no reason to believe she is cheating on you, try to get that out of your head. If you are constantly accusing her or being to needy, she will start resenting you. She probably tells you that she don't love you anymore and don't want to be with you when she's mad, because that is probably how you are making her feel at times. I say relax a little bit, and give it a chance. This may be the one for you. But you'll never know if you push her away. Another solution is for you to take time out from relationships and find yourself. Because It seems to me that you have very low self esteem and feel as if you are not good enough to be in a relationship where the woman can only love you. Think about it.
Good Luck!
2006-12-16 04:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by Itsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe what she says, when she says it. When girls says u are smothering them, then you are. Give her space and don't be available all the time. I have the feeling that your gf and I have the same zodiac sign, and its true that he loves you, but too much of it will drive her away, give her that feeling that you are independent enough and that u dont need her that much. If u guys are meant together then it will work out. The trust issue, that is a big problem, go to a therapist or read some self help books if u really love this girl.
2006-12-16 12:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe i'll help if u talk to her n tell her ur insecurities about trust n thta's the reason u do the things u do n just try to start trusting her more, as she told u she loves u but if u doubt that then ask her wat she means by she doesn't know if she loves u anymore that way u can work on building trust in the relationship.
2006-12-16 12:15:10 · answer #3 · answered by sexyblakk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down and listen up. If people hurt you in the past it does not have to ruin your present or your future with the one you love. I know it's hard to trust after being hurt, but you need to find a way to boost your self confidence and let the person you are with have their own space when they need it. otherwise you will end up alone, again.
Also, if you need to. seek professional help, a counsellor or therapist to work on your trust issues. self image, confidence etc. You are a good and loyal boyfriend and you deserve the best. so respect yourself and don't accuse your girlfriend in vain. it's just insulting to her.
Be calm, good luck to you both,
Irene
2006-12-16 12:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems your letting your past relationships be judgment over this one. Only you can find out y you don't trust and may I suggest you do it quickly because your going to drive her away. Go talk to someone you trust and objective opinion might be worth a million. Good luck.
2006-12-16 12:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she does care about you, and she is telling you what you need to do. don't be calling her so much,stop being so clingy. i have a feeling that this is what drove the other girls to cheat on you. alot of girls don't like that.i know i don't. it is very annoying when the guy is always calling and wanting to know what your doing who your talking to and what did you talk about. if you cant get a handle on this your going to end up losing her. what went on in your past relationships has nothing to do with her. its not her problem, but your making it her problem and she don't like it. so knock it off!!!!
2006-12-16 12:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont think you can trust her i would just break up with her
2006-12-16 12:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by bkewlv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋