My son has ADHD and ODD, he is almost 16 and he is driving us crazy, he was.....?

Question

diagnosed when he was 2 years old, and we have been in so many battles with daycare, school , family, ourselves because of this. We have been involved in the CHADD meetings and he has been medicated, counseling. BUt I seem to thin it is hormonal at this stage in his life, he has BAD **** attitude . BUT!!! When he is good he is GREAT but when he's bad he is UGHHH, there is no inbetween with him. I love him so much and now that i am getting older I am thinking about his future and even to the point of worrying where his life will be if something happens to me and his dad. He didn't ask for this crap , but here we are. Doe's anyone else have these problems?

Answer 1

First, remember that ADHD is a theory, There is no real science behind it. A list of questions about behaviour is the diagnoses. Say yes to 6 and it is ADHD..to five , it's no. At age 2 reffered to as the terrible two's is a time that is diufficult for many children and parents, To diagnoses ADHD at two is very unrelibale. Many things like allergies, food or other can cause behaviour problems. Metal toxins such as lead, mercury have the same effect. First have your child tested for these.

The medications used for ADHD are serious narcotics and anti-depresents not even recommended for children under 18 becuase their brains are still developing and there are no long-term studies to show the effectivness and saftey of so many of these drugs. The listed documented side effects for Ritalin have grown over the years from hardly any or very minor to now 17 and death is one of them. Remember Ritalin is a very popular street drug, (speed). Do some research outside of CHADD and you will find doctors that have written books about the dangers of this drug. By the way, CHADD recieves hundreds of thousands of dollars from the makers of Ritalin (Drug Companies) as donation. This is a fact.
Ritalin can aslo be Dexidrine. Much in demand with druggies and crackheads as a street drug. Some of the listed side effects for this drug ..and more coming to list and on news every month it seems, are:

Restlessnees, inability to concentrate,extreme mood swings, weight loss, stunted growth, loss of apetite, iritiability, hostility, opositional , anger, tremors, permanant chromozone damage, suicidal idealizations,heart murmurs, rapid heart beat, increased blood pressure, heart valve damage,cardiac arrest, strokes, hullucinations, ampathy, violent outburst, addiction to stimulants and other drugs, feelings of bugs crawling under the skin, blood vessel damage, and if this isn't enough adding anit-depressents to the mix can multiply symptoms which usually means more drugs. Not common for these kids to send up on 4-5 precriptions over time.

Your son may be suffering from damage caused to him by these drugs even if he is now off of them. I don't want to frighten you but I can see you love your son and what the best for him. That is why you need to be informed in detail about these harmfull drugs. Ritalindeath.com is a site by parents whose children died from Ritalin. They too loved their children and were not told about the dangers. They are now and forever grieving the loss of their children due to this so-called medication. Please, please research in depth and you will see. I like yourself went through this and when I did some detailed research I was shocked. I took my son off of Ritalin and he became calm and normal acting in just a few months. Active children are often very bright and curious and are totally normal. Now your son is older you need to find out from him how he feels. My son hated the labeling, (retard) by classmates becuase he was on Ritalin and his self esteem suffered greatly. The lasting effect he has today is that he was not treated normal and feels like an outcast. He is healing but it never need to have happened if this false label and drugging of ADHD hadn't happened.

Last year it was voted 8-7 at the last FDA meeting on Ritalin to black-box the drug. (This is the highest warning and labeling drugs can get)..even so..it has not been done. What does this yell you?

I wish you good luck and be strong for yourself and your son. If he is on a drug and you plan to take him off do not do this without a doctors help as some prescription drugs are so addictive and cold turkey can result in serious medical problems. Seek the help of a good doctor that is very informed(as not all doctors are).

Your son still has a chance to become the great person he is and your love will guide him through. Let him know you will stand behind him and all of this was NOT his fault nor yours.

Answer 2

First of all, ADHD isn't solved with a pill. Second, most people with ADD have a secondary problem; depression, anxiety, etc., that goes untreated if you don't have a good therapist versed in treating ADD properly. If he has ODD, what is being done for that? Third, read The ADD Book, Sears and Thompson, which gives alternatives to popping pills, not a great idea for anyone. They focus on diet, therapy, behavior modification, etc., using pills as the last resort. There are natural tonics, see Native Remedies online, for ADD too.

Yes his hormones may play a part in reacting to the medications he's been on. BTW, I feel that they actually make the problem worse. Many ADD people get into drugs and alcohol trying to self medicate. I suggest you go beyond CHADD, who I was not pleased with when I called to find out about the suicides with teens, the seem to be just about popping pills and nothing more.

Answer 3

16 +
bad attitude
=normal to me

but if he's worse
is there a possibility of drug abuse?

He didn't ask....none of us ask for our existence
just do the best you can with the tools you are given

what does he do with his spare time?

Does he reach out and help others that are more needy than himself?

Do you realize that he knows someone now that will probably die or be seriously injured in a driving accident?---I only mention this because we seem to lose so many teens in accidents
and remembering that
helped me
in my stressful times with my teens

because life is precious
sometimes I needed the reminder that one of my teens friends may not be around forever
and I needed to temper my reactions to their behavior

Best of luck to you
health & happiness to your family

you might look into co-dependency
there is a point
where he will be on his own
without his parents being able to cover for him

and you will need to learn
*hardest skill ever IMO*
to let it go
to let him make decisions
--which include how he treats his family

My motto was
I never let my kids treat me worse
than I wanted THEIR children to treat THEM...because
it sure can go that way

how many times
have you repeated
a parent's mistake?

without working on your reactions to him
the cycle continues

hope some of this made sense

Answer 4

Yep. I did when I's a kid. and now at 31 yrs old I am wondering why I didn't off myself years ago. I bet you're one of those parents that can't stand honesty too, eh? go ahead and violate me then.