why is premarital sex a sin?

Question

In Galatians 5:22-23...

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law."

Does that not mean that the Spirit is a supporter of these things? And that as long as something is done in 'love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance', there is no law against that?

So if a couple is in love with each other, permartial sex should not have a law against it?

It is highly probable that God wanted no sex before marriage back then as people did not date, and would therefore not have had experienced love until they are together by marriage. So this law was made such that it may actually mean 'no sex without love'?

if anything that God says we are not allowed to do is a sin.. Then divorce is definitely a sin..
So it is sinful of a woman to divorce her husband who constantly physically abuses her?

Answer 1

You have opened up a big can of worms here.. because prem sex is the biggest problem among christians.. GOD's original plan was for sex to be HIS wedding gift to all who would receive it. and if you have met ac ouple that waited till tier honeymon to consumate the relationship, you will find a solid couple. but one has to trust in GOD to wait for HIS blessing to be given. and THOSE who wait on the LORD shall renew their strength. They shall run and not be weary and shall walk and not faint. they shall soar lie the wings of eagles... and the other question about a battered wife.. that is a violation of the relationship, the same as a sex affair. when you read in the BIBLE the responsibilities of the husband to the wife it doesn't give him that ability. and he has broken the trust in abusing her. she can divorce him on adultery because it is about marital infidelity. that is also wife beating

Answer 2

For the simplest answer, we first need to define the word "sin." A sin is anything that is against the will of God - so the easiest answer is it's a sin because God said it was against His will time and time again (even in this day and age when people date).

As logical as that question sounds, it really is impossible to outsmart God in things like this, because He sees the big picture about it a lot more than we do. For example a small portion of His knowledge that some of us mortals have figured out is that your more likely to get divorced if you have sex before marriage.

..and even bigger than that is knowing that true love and commitment are inseparable. I dated my husband for 3 years before we were married, and I though I really loved him then. Now that I've been married for two years, I know my love then was weak at best, because it did not have serious commitment and sacrifice to give it the strength that it has it has now. People who say they're ready just because they love each other, don't really grasp how weak and fragile their love actually is,

Answer 3

Everyones opinion is just that, an opinion. My opinion is that this "opinion" was created by people trying to control and scare others. If God really thought it was a sin don't you think God would do something about it? My opinion is that as long as you live a good life, don't hurt others and treat others how you would like to be treated, why would God punish you for not being married and having sex??? I'm not saying go out and do it whenever you can and be stupid, I'm saying think about your actions and be smart but don't let others tell you that you're a sinner and going to hell just because you had sex before you married. Hell is for the true sinners like killers and rapists.

Answer 4

If you really love the person, you're willing to make the commitment to marry them for life, and you should. If you're not willing to do that, then you shouldn't be having sex with them. God intends sex to be within marriage bc it's a very bonding thing, and if you break up, then that bond can be broken which causes pain, or, if it isn't, when you do get married, you still have those bonds to the previous person you've slept with, which can keep you from enjoying sex with your spouse as much as you would without those bonds or memories.

Additionally, if sex results in children, they need both a father and a mother to have the best environment to mature into a godly adult, without both parents, problems can develop from the lack of either masculine or feminine love and affirmation.

Answer 5

it isn't. the church decided that it could have better control of people by telling them these things, using FEAR as a motivator to get people to behave.

having to repress natural sexual feelings and urges is the root cause of such terrible things like sexual disfunction, guilt after sex, and at the very worst end- fetishes, rape and violent sexual acts. it is not the only cause, but it is a contributing factor.

being in love is a beautiful thing, and in your heart you know the answer to this question.

Answer 6

Why would God tell us not to have sex before marriage if no one even dated in the past?

Sex does not equal love, and love does not equal sex.

Do you love your parents or your children? Have you have sex with all of them? I think not.

People today quite often have sex but without love (it is quite often just lust).

You can love people and not have sex with them.
God wants us to wait and to give our selves only to our spouse.

Answer 7

The negative consequences of premarital sex can be seen from the relational, physical, emotional, and spiritual points of view.

Relationships: One study showed that the average high school relationship will last only twenty-one days once the couple has sex. Furthermore, couples who sleep together before they are married have a divorce rate three times as high as couples who saved that gift for the wedding night.(1) Couples who want what is best for their relationship or future marriage will wait. Beyond their own relationship, premarital sex frequently causes tension within families because of the dishonesty that usually accompanies the hidden intimacies. Relationships with friends are often strained and, when things turn sour, the gossip and social problems often become unbearable.

One high school girl wrote, "I am sixteen and have already lost my virginity. I truly regret that my first time was with a guy that I didn't care that much about. Since that first night, he expects sex on every date. When I don't feel like it, we end up in an argument. I don't think this guy is in love with me, and I know deep down that I am not in love with him either. This makes me feel cheap. I realize now that this is a very big step in a girl's life. After you have done it, things are never the same. It changes everything."(2) Another young person said, "I slept with many, many people trying to find love, to find self-worth. And the more people I slept with, the less self-worth I had."(3)

Everyone talks about how hard it is to say no, but no one tells you how hard it is when you say yes to sex.

Physical Health: It is dangerous for a young single woman to be sexually active. Because a teenage girl's reproductive system is still immature, she is much more susceptible to sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). In fact, early sexual activity is the number one risk factor for cervical cancer, and the second is multiple sex partners.(4) A girl's body, like her heart, is not designed to handle multiple sexual partners. Besides making herself vulnerable to STDs, your friend also needs to consider if she is ready to be a mother. Lastly, consider the fact that the rate of suicide attempts for sexually active girls aged twelve to sixteen is six times higher than the rate for virgins.(5) Tragically, these girls do not realize the purity and forgiveness that they can find in Christ.

New scientific studies also suggest that if a woman has multiple sexual partners, this will lower her levels of oxytocin that in turn will damage her ability to bond. Oxytocin is a neuro-peptide most commonly associated with pregnancy and breastfeeding. It seems to act as a human "superglue," helping a mother bond with her infant. It is also released during sexual arousal and there, too, seems to work as a "superglue." Since estrogen enhances the oxytocin response, females are capable of more intense bonding than males, and are more susceptible to the suffering that accompanies broken bonds.(6) According to an article by Dr. John Diggs and Dr. Eric Keroack, "People who have misused their sexual faculty and become bonded to multiple persons will diminish the power of oxytocin to maintain a permanent bond with an individual."(7)

In more basic terms, sharing the gift of sex is like putting a piece of tape on another person's arm. The first bond is strong and it hurts to remove it. Shift the tape to another person's arm and the bond will still work but it will be easier to remove. Each time this is done, part of each person remains with the tape. Soon it is easy to remove because the residue from the various arms interferes with the tape's ability to stick. The same is true in relationships, where previous sexual experiences interfere with the ability to bond.

But a sexual relationship that is properly bonded from the start, such as that between two virgins on their wedding night, has one advantage among many: Oxytocin helps to maintain the "high" of sex in a long-term relationship. This does not mean that if a person is not a virgin on the wedding night, he or she will be unable to bond with a spouse. It simply means that when we follow God's plan, we have the most abundant life possible.

Emotional Health: It isn't uncommon for a girl to have sex in order to make a guy like her more, or to encourage him to stay with her. She may compromise her standards because she's afraid of never being loved. Once he leaves her, though, an emotional divorce takes place. A person's heart is not made to be that close to a person and then separated. Since teenage sexual relationships rarely last, the girl's sense of self-worth is often damaged. Also, she sometimes concludes that if she looked better, he would have stayed longer. This mentality can lead to harmful practices, such as eating disorders like bulimia.

In her heart, a girl who has been used knows it. However, she may immediately jump into another sexual relationship to escape the hurt. If she tries to boost her self-esteem by giving guys what they want, then her self-worth often ends up depending upon those kinds of relationships. Her development as a woman is stunted because without chastity she does not know how to express affection, appreciation, or attraction for a guy without implying something sexual. She may even conclude that a guy does not love her unless he makes sexual advances toward her. She knows that sex exists without intimacy, but she may forget that intimacy can exist without sex. A girl on this track usually feels accepted initially but that acceptance lasts only as long as the physical pleasure.

Spiritual Life: Sin cuts us off from God, and this is the most serious consequence of premarital sex. After going too far, many of us know all too well that cloud of guilt that weighs on our hearts. The solution is not to kill our conscience, but to follow it to freedom. It is calling us, not condemning us. Provided we repent, God will be there to welcome us home and let us start over (see John 8 and Luke 15).

What this all means is that our bodies, our hearts, our relationships, and our souls are not made for premarital sex. We are made for enduring love.

Answer 8

Because the bible says so.