I'm a person who loves doing nice things for people and making them feel good about themselves, but I feel a little uncomfortable in the spotlight when I receive recognition. I recently did something nice for a few friends I work with. (I wrote a thank you message and made them a gift.) They all individually thanked me, to which I replied a soft-spoken "you're welcome." After I said that though, I blushed or looked away quickly.
I don't want them to think that I don't appreciate their gratitude though since I responded briefly and didn't necessarily hold eye contact. I really appreciate the fact that they thanked me and said that it meant a lot, but at the same time, I get a little uncomfortable with attention. I just don't want people to think I'm disregarding their gratitude.
So, I was just wondering if you were on the receiving end of my brief, soft-spoken "you're welcome", what would you think?
2006-12-16 03:13:16 · 7 answers · asked by Chelsea 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If they know you well, then I would think that they would recognize that you acknowleged them by responding with a "thank you" in your soft spoken way and that sounds okay.
Try to make eye contact so that you yourself know that they heard your remark. This takes practice for people who are a little shy in the spotlight, but when you SEE them smile, it will put you at ease and make you feel good too!
2006-12-16 03:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by karlee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying "you're welcome" is fine. You might also add, "I'm glad you enjoyed it."
You are obviously uncomfortable with the attention your good deeds receive and there is nothing wrong with that. That's a good thing as obviously you're not doing things for others for the wrong reasons.
Be happy that people acknowledge your kindnesses. In this day and age such things are often ignored.
2006-12-16 11:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by castle h 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you are shy in a way but that is not a problem don't worry, some people are not meant to be in the spotlight or do not like it like you and me.
2006-12-16 11:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A modest "you're welcome" is exactly the appropriate response. To make any more of the affair would imply you did a good deed in anticipation of the recognition.
2006-12-16 12:46:34 · answer #4 · answered by vladbath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just more at ease giving, than receiving. It will ever be so. Accept as gracefully as possible.
2006-12-16 11:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by jmmevolve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try changing thank you to I'm glad you like it. It's a few more words and may make you feel more comfortable.
2006-12-16 11:16:38 · answer #6 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people will most likely realize your shy. it's ok. anyone who thinks badly of you after you do something nice is just messed-up
2006-12-16 11:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by ifyoulovehim, t e l l him<3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋