I liked this girl for a long time and she knows, now i wait to hear her answer if she'll be mine, but she likes one of my old friends and she pretty much wants him. it seems like I have no part with her and I wanna tell her goodbye cause being her friend hurt me watching her with him, I just can't do it. so how do I tell her goodbye and how can I move on. this is hard for me I just want a girl to hold in my arms and love. thanks for your help
2006-12-16 03:12:09 · 15 answers · asked by sarge7826 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey, just start telling people that you don't like her, i know how you feel because my boyfriend just broke up with me for one of my friends, just tell every one you don't like her, and it will get around to her. Or you could confront you and tell her that you aren't into her anymore. either way, i hope everything works out ok. ~TAY~
2006-12-16 03:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you think you have to for closure for yourself, you don't really need to say anything. Just go about your business, stay in contact with other friends and make new ones, and the pain will lessen one day. I'm sorry to tell you it does take time; but you will survive it. Maybe one day you will look back and wonder what you ever saw in her; maybe you will look back and always have a soft spot. No matter. But take care of yourself. It is not her fault or yours that she is attracted to someone else; look at the many women who choose bad men (!) and so it is proof that even though you are probably the best guy, some people just don't get it!
Be good to yourself; you deserve it. You took a chance and it did not turn out the way you hoped. But you will get your turn. I promise.
Best of luck to you. And don't blame yourself. And as the other poster said, if you don't say good bye, you never know what could happen tomorrow. Just don't set your heart on it.
2006-12-16 11:18:37 · answer #2 · answered by hopflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is the hurt of all time. I feel if you are really a friend and you really like her then you should be happy for her to be happy. Just bide your time with her and your friend. Be kind to her and support her all you can without getting to emotionally hurt. She like the other guy and you like her. If you want to say good bye to her you will have to say good bye to your friend too. It really is not worth it. She may not have any idea how you feel, and if you do you both will feel uncomfortable. If you keep your friendship with both of them. She may find she doesn't' like your friend as much as she thought. You can then make a play for her. But if you cannot do this then just tell her. You really like her and she drives you crazy. You hurt so much you can not stand to see her with someone else... ( which is very immature and selfish) so you have to leave. Honesty is the best policy in most cases but, tight lips sinks no ships. Friendship just may last forever.
Good Luck
2006-12-16 11:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by NIck N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to deal with it. Avoiding her is not a way to live. You've known her for a long time and nothing has happened so saying goodbye when you've never really said hello is crazy. Learn to deal with your feelings. You are not the only one who has felt that way about that type of predicament, and you won't be the last.
2006-12-16 11:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by mecasa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring her on a date one night and start with small talk(like "How was your day?"). Ask her how your(you and her) relationship is going and she will probably answer "Good. Why?" Then just say casually that you saw her and this man "together" and wondered what was going on?
This might sound sound good in theory but you'll never find out what really happens until you do it. Make this mistake and learn from is. If this turns out to not be a mistake, then I hope you do well with the rest of your life.
2006-12-16 11:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by thefutureisnow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, accept that no matter what you feel for her, she doesnt feel the same for you,, since your not in a relationship,,,, there really isnt a reason to say goodbye,,,,, just start getting busy with other things,, avoid contact with her as much as possible,,,,,, get out and do things,, ask girls out, by dating and interacting with other girls, is how you will find the one for you,,,,, and the one that wants you
2006-12-16 11:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by dlin333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth tell her how you feel...If you want to move on time will help you and you can find another girl that will love you
2006-12-16 11:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by THALIA 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it matters what kind of girl she is you should probly just ease away from her you know what i mean? jus slowly grow apart! YOu can move on see she is obviously not the girl for you some day someone is gonna sweep you off your feets it just might not be when you want it too!! GOOD LUCK!!!!! :)
2006-12-16 11:17:09 · answer #8 · answered by being patient with love♥ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry to hear that and i know it hurts so bad but you will
find someone to love and you'll be loved and you'll look back
and laugh about this , i know its unimaginable right now
but believe me you'll get over her , but before that make sure
you did whatever you could to win her , fight for her
good luck
2006-12-16 11:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by Idea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her but its better 2 tell her face 2 face.
2006-12-16 11:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by Carolinee(: 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋