My loved one is seriously ill(deterioating health day by day). Doctors are not much sure of his life. My mind is frozen when i think of death. How do i prepare my mind for the incident i'm likely to face?
2006-12-16 03:04:29 · 26 answers · asked by Sky Boy 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
this is absolutely a nice question, and my answer will be ; there is a life after this life, and it is infinite. actually our death is begining of the real life. this world is just an exam place for all of us. ofcourse we have feelings, you gonna be very sad by loosing her, but dont loose yourself. being hopeless is most powerfull weapon of the devil. Try to keep up.
2006-12-16 03:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by ferhat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to prepare your self no matter how long your loved one has. You just have to make their last days as peaceful and pain free as possible. When the time comes you will have to ask for help: there are many support groups and some medications for this that can be started now .Don't expect a quick fix . My dad has been gone for 3 years and I still have days were the feelings hit,If you have a friend or a family member in common talk to them.
As for death you need to think about , try to think of some incident that your loved one would accomplish in the afterlife.
You have prayers for the coming times and I hope you can find a solution that works for you.
2006-12-16 05:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by kalbri3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the most of the time you have left. You already know the inevitable, that won't change. Make every effort you can to let them know how much they mean to you. As long as you do this you will be amazed at how well you'll handle the loss. It is never easy to lose someone you love. The best you can do is be there and let them know how much they're loved. As hard as it is, this will help you, and them prepare for what is to come. Don't forget, grieving is a normal process. Do not deprive yourself, it is not a weakness. Scary maybe but not weak.
I'm so sorry for your dilemma, try and stay strong. If it is your faith, pray together, and keep loved ones close. I hope you have these resources available to you. My prayers are with you.
2006-12-16 03:28:51 · answer #3 · answered by blaze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are ever prepared the pain will be the same no matter how much you reconcile with youself
I think we do cope and move over to the next chapter in our life with our memories that we have gained over the years
Poem "The next Room" by Cannon something helped me when I lost someone close to me
It's not heavy on the religion side but almost seemed very true
Can only wish you good luck at this time and hope that the future does not look too bleak and if it does at this point thenhopefully it won't for too long
2006-12-16 07:31:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi dear !
When the chat is about death, the first thing you have to put in mind is that this is the ONLY THING for sure in life and there´s another thing that is always happening in our lives, that is CHANGE, since you get used to this, you become more prepared to face this ticklish situations..of course it´s not that easy to live with the miss of someone we love, however try to keep in mind that everyone has a mission of different time in this world and when this mission is over, there´s no reason why to stay here, so we pass away...remember it will happen to every one...including me one day.
2006-12-16 03:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by Clainei Randeles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already are in the beginning of the grieving process. This article is interesting because it criticizes the Five Stages of Grief (which you will hear for the next few months) for not being complete.
http://www.counselingforloss.com/article8.htm
What you're hoping for is a miracle turnaround. What you need to do is make sure everything you wanted to say is said. Why? Because if he recovers (whether it's impossible or not), you will be able to build an even closer relationship from that.
Death is part of the life process. We do not question our births, and we have no idea what happens before we're born just like we have no idea of what happens after we die. Also, if you're young, it could be a bit of survivor's guilt or extreme fear that your own mortality has just been shoved into your face.
Just talk to him, if you can, and leave no positive information unsaid (don't talk about negative things, because you'll regret burdening him with those later in your life). Then . . . listen. Carry him forward in your life and make him last for eternity by his influence on you, your influence on someone else, someone else's influence on another person, and so on.
2006-12-16 03:14:47 · answer #6 · answered by Jess B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, there is no way you can prepare yourself as you will never believe it until it happens. All i can say is try and not think about what is going to happen and think about the time that is left and spend your time with that person as much as you can. Even though its hard to do just think of the positive and not the negative until the time comes. But also remember that when they pass they are always with you.
Just light a candle each day for your loved one. If you need to grieve then greave and if you need to talk then talk dont bottle things up. Talking will help your through.
2006-12-16 03:26:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does one ever prepare themself for this? If it was me, I would spend the time with him in celebration of our times together. I would use the time to show and talk about the things we loved and all that is sacred between us. I would do my best to make sure the passing was a peacful one, no sadness, just love and happiness. I would make sure that he knew how much he is and will be loved and how he would never leave my heart and we would always be together, because I could never forget him, and meeting him was the one of the best things that ever happened in my life. I would show him that I am not afraid, so that he would also have peace of mind about leaving me behind. I would show no regret, just love and strength for both of us...
My heart is with you...
Love
2006-12-16 03:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky, and she is lucky to be able to spend her last moments together with you. My ex boyfriend died in a hiking accident, and I didn't even get to say goodbye.
My advice is to cherish every moment you have together and do the things both of you enjoy that would make her happy, so when she is gone, you can look back and smile because you know you've made her last moments the happiest moments in her life. I'm not saying there won't be sadness, but at least you were there when she needed you the most.
There's also a book about losing someone and coping with it that i recommend to read.
2006-12-16 03:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by napejo 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no matter how you think you can prepare nothing will actually be near to what you experience when it happens just make the most of the time you have you can deal with stuff later - everyond is different but just remember you are not alone dont let the last few days be spoilt by you trying to prepare just love the person now
2006-12-18 22:33:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much you think you are prepared it still hurts when it happens, i thought i was ready for my grandmothers death,i even had a plan in mind to cope but when it happened i was on the floor, all i can advise is to have people around you and don't be afraid to show your feelings, there are no set rules on grieving only you can determine how you cope.
2006-12-16 03:34:54 · answer #11 · answered by honey_pink_sky 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋