i fell out of love with my hubby @ 2 yrs ago recently met a great man I think I am falling in love confused do alot of crying for I know where my heart is my hubby has cheated on me way more than 4 times so i feel as though i have had enough what do you say
2006-12-16 02:39:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are no longer in love with him, you need to find the courage to leave, but before you go to this other man, allow yourself some time to heal.......Then if you still feel the same way in six months, go to him, there is no point staying in a relationship where you dont feel love for that other person..........
2006-12-16 02:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Seeking marriage counselling with your hubby. If you really loved him when you married him, then you still love him now. It is fallacy that one falls out of love. It usually that the love was not as strong as the passion. People often marry to fast - only a professional can help you to know which it was.
2) Stop seeing this other guy in the meantime. If he loves you he will wait a little while (a good marriage counsellor should be able to tell you if you have a marriage worth saving without too much time going by).
3) If you don't seek professional help, then make an arbitrary choice. Stay with him and let the new guy go, or leave him (get a divorce) and go with the new guy. If you keep going on as you have, you are lying to your husband (cheater or not, he deserves honesty, it is a basic human right), and you are lying to yourself. You are also becoming a cheater, too.
One last point - if you leave, leave him because the marriage was wrong, not because there is another guy. You may find that the other guy only wanted you because you are forbidden fruit. Once you are free he could lose interest. If you left particularly to be with him, then you are out of luck.
2006-12-16 02:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by funwithu_007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are no longer in love with your husband, and know there is no future with him, then u should leave. If he has cheated on you then obviously he hasn't been happy for awhile either. Why hang on to a marriage that is doomed for failure. Everyone deserves happiness and love in their life, but we have to create it for ourselves by the right paths and the right choices.
2006-12-16 03:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart. Keeping a relationship together is hard enough. Without love it is much harder. It will be easier in the long run.
2006-12-16 02:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by ShanNO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should divorce him if you no longer love him and start seeing the other man
2006-12-16 02:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cheat on your husband, leave him if you want to start seeing someone else.
2006-12-16 02:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a divorce get rid of that guy. u should only be with someone if u love them.
2006-12-16 02:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by punk girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with the guy u love
2006-12-16 02:42:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋