ok, this 7th grade immature boy from my church likes me and asked me out. he tricked me into saying yes. i dont wanna go out with him but i never see him, only at church. the problem is that theres a dance at my school tonight and one of my guy friends asked me to go with him. i didnt wanna say no so i said mabey. more than likley the boy from my chruch (tanner) will be there and he will see me hangin with my guy friend (aaron). so i wanna go with aaron but tanner might get mad and think im cheating on him. what should i do?
2006-12-16 02:39:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im dating the 7th grader
2006-12-16 02:44:01 · update #1
i dont know tanners phone #
2006-12-16 02:44:57 · update #2
im not in 7th grade
2006-12-16 02:46:00 · update #3
i didnt promise tanner i would go to him. he tricked me into dating him and i dont know if hes going to the dance. but aaron is and he wants to go with me and i do to
2006-12-16 02:47:31 · update #4
go out with both of them and see which one you like the best.
2006-12-18 09:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by oldjr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are thinking to much about this, or not tell us the whole truth. First, Tanner asked you out, but you say you never see him except at church? If you said yes to going out with him tricked, or not, your word should be your bond. But if you never see him at school and that is where the dance is, then why would he be at your school. Are you sure you are telling us the whole truth? Another thing if you are not going out with Tanner then why would you think Tanner would think you are cheating on him. He is not your boy friend or you are not going steady are you..? Are you sure you are telling us the whole truth? Look the bottom line is if you are not verbally connected to Tanner, then call him up and tell him no. If you promised Tanner, you would go out with him then go. Wow ,you promised at church, and that promise is more holding than just a regular promise. After the date with Tanner if you don't enjoy being with him then kindly drop him. He will get over it. Many girls said good bye to me after a date or two. Then you will be able to go to the next dance at school with Aaron. Remember, you will feel better about keeping your promises to someone and you will not have to remember who you told a lie to. Good luck
2006-12-16 02:55:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are in 7th grade.....so everything seems like a big deal. I would go with Aaron and tell tanner that he never calls you like a real boyfriend would so you thought you were not dating. If he does call break up with him. And tell him that aaron is just a good friend that you are dancing with and that you do not really want a boyfriend right now.
However if tanner is really popular at school this plan could backfire.....and everyone at school might be mad at you. In that case i might not show up with another boy.
2006-12-16 02:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by mandolinatou 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go with Tanner, you can't break a promise like that. Tell the other guy that you promised to go with Tanner. You did not promise Aaron. You still can dance with Aaron. Tell Tanner that you feel that you and him should just be friends nothing more. Don't ever do that again (go out with someone you don't want to go out with).
2006-12-16 02:45:39 · answer #4 · answered by lhpretty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not allow yourself to feel bullied into going on a date with someone even if he i joking always just try to finish off the conversation with, 'i don't think so', or 'nice joke'.
Be nice and polite but firm and then hang out with the people that you want to be with. It is important too for Tanner that he learns the correct way to treat you and other people.
Lastly if you are still stressed as hard as it may be, talk to your mum or dad or even a friends parent. Going to a dance is supposed to be fun, so if it doesn't feel right then someone is treating you badly. x
2006-12-16 02:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) call up tanner and tell him you just want to be friends and then go with aaron
2) or tell tanner that you want to go with aaron to the dance and there is nothing going on with you and aaron
3) or just go to the dance and be with both of them
when i have a dance i go with my girl friends i all ways have more fun with them
2006-12-16 02:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Welcome to the world of headaches! You are too worried about serious issues and my advice to you is to be a kid and have fun! Dance with both guys and be polite to both! Hang out together and just be friends because that is what being your age is all about! Be glad you are not an adult having real problems with men! Enjoy being a kid while you still can!!!
2006-12-16 02:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-15 01:38:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to what your heart says... no one could ever control you... just listen and do not give in to these things there are more in life to attend to than having this simple problem... tell the truth... never let them decide for you... its your life... your decisions... whatever your decisions will be will be fine and think over it....
2006-12-16 02:49:09 · answer #9 · answered by Karl G. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok everyone has phone # look in the chruch directory
2006-12-16 02:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by smurf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋