This is really depressing to talk about about right now. But i have to and i want to do something about it right now. Well, I am a 13 year old boy who is going crazy about my mother. i think my childhood is really messed up because of her. I feel like she had me and she planned to ruin my life. Its really hard to talk about. I am crying while talking about this. Anyways, I am just a normal boy doing normal things. My mom has always yelled at me for no reason telling me that i am killing her making me feel really bad and depressed. I am not doing anything. i don't seserve to be treated this way. My heart is beating so hard that i just want to hurt myself. My mind and brain hurts so hard from crying and screaming I can't stop its ruin MY life. I don't know what to do about it. I am not doing good in school or have any friends because it makes me a bad person throught her. I hate my life and I want to die.
What am I suppose to do?
2006-12-16 02:34:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
talk to ur mom bout this and tell her all ur feelings or talk to ur conselour in school and she'll prolly help you gees i feel bad for you
2006-12-16 02:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by Pinny 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you don't want to die, even if it feels like it. Honey we've all been teenagers at one point or another and have all had those thoughts and feelings.
Couple of things to think about:
YOU are responsible for making friends for yourself.
YOU are responsible for doing well in school.
YOU make the choice to be a bad or a good person.
None of these things are up to your mother - this is about your future now and 13 is old enough to stand up and become a man.
It's time to take off the gloves and bond with mom. Has she ever sought out therapy for the two of you? I hate to say it but over the next few years you won't be friends and you probably won't like each other very much but you will have to tolerate each other.
Remember that you may not like her very much right now but you do need to show her respect and vice versa.
Hang in there kiddo and God Bless.
2006-12-16 10:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by redslippers 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, I know exactly how you feel. I was a liitle younger than you were though, but i still live with those feelings but I know how to deal with it. All I can say to you is I know thats your mother but try to ignore hear. Every one has a "get-a-way place", so my advice for you is to find that place. Not necessarily telling you to run away or anything but just tune out the negative things she do. For me it was music, music was my weapon of comfort. So find yours. Dont think about ending your life because after every storm there is a rainbow. If you can try to write a letter to your mother expressing your feelings, write a poem, if that dont work or she dont change all i can say is pray. Say some affirmation to yourself. you can also talk to your school counselor about it. Go outside and try to make friends. You are 13 I'm sure there are young boys you can be friends with. When you make friends you will feel better, you can even if possible have sleep overs to help you drain out the negativity your mother give you. If all else fail and its really that bad I suggest you go spend time with some of your relatives, because her negativity can really scar you for life. Its not good for your health. You shouldn't be depressed you are to young for her to make you feel like that. I wish you the best and hope you soon start to feel better.
2006-12-16 12:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ally R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Relax....jsut take one deep breath and chill. You are having a very bad day, maybe even a very bad life, but it always gets better.
It sounds to me like your mom has some major problems. You need to always remember that when she is treating you unfairly. She is an adult, you are a child, I think she is ruining her own life through what sounds like a mental problem. You are not the problem, she is. Repeat that over and over in your mind everytiime she wigs out on you.
You need to talk to an adult you trust about this, we can't help you here with the kind of help you need. You need to talk, you have to talk, you can not continue to feel this way, there are many people out there who could help you. YOu don't need to feel guilty about talking to that trusted adult, it is okay, you owe it to yourself.
I am not a religious freak but you need to remember that god put you here for a reason, you don't know what it is yet, the lives you will touch and change you won't ever know about if you don't live.
Everyone wants to die sometimes, but it just isn't all it's cracked up to be, life is hard but worth the work....
Now, pull yourself up,let her hurtful words go in one ear and out the other, stay away from her if you can....
You are being abused, you can get out of there with the right help. a teacher, a friends parent, a neighbor, anyone, go talk to anyone but don't take the cheap cop out, life was given to you. Your tough life now may translate later on to you beig able to help kids in your situation...please, choose life....you deserve to be loved...good luck, god bless.
2006-12-16 10:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go talk to your school counselor, call a teen help line or talk to a teacher/neighbor that you trust. Don't give up until you find someone that can help. Also depending on where you live you could call a social service agency....sometimes they help parents in need of parents training especially when children are in crisis.
Parents are not always good parents unfortunately. I doubt she is trying to ruin your life....but you mother might need some help and as a result so do you. Also if there is a big brothers big sisters program in your area....try signing up for that....having healthy adults in your life supporting you will make a big difference.
Good luck
2006-12-16 10:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by mandolinatou 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is there ANYBODY you can talk to, right there, close? If so, please go to them, now, and tell them everything you just said here. Print it out if you have to. How is she ruining your life? I know life is rough right now, but you really do have so much to live for. If you're in a situation where she's doing something illegal, go to the police, if it's due to you not having enough money for things, that will and can change. Please let us know how you're doing and if any of this helps.
2006-12-16 10:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by Alicia L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
had the same exact problem...i went thru a few nervous breakdown exclusively because of my mom,thought about killing myself because of her,and kept wondering how she could make me feel this way after giving me life...
i'm 22 now i still berar the scars,i love my mom though but my life will never be normal...
don't have any advice for you but protect yourself and don't pay attention to what she can say...
good luck
2006-12-18 16:58:13 · answer #7 · answered by Billie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get help. I am a mom. I have 3 kids. The problem is not you. It's you mom.
Please, before you do anything stupid, go see the counselor at your school or call your suicide prevention center.
YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-16 10:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
CALL 911 TALK TO YOUR MOTHER. TELL THE POliCE!
2006-12-16 10:43:17 · answer #9 · answered by beansfamily 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to your minister, a policeman, or someone you can trust. nothing is worth hurting yourself over. talk to someone now.
2006-12-16 10:39:11 · answer #10 · answered by sinned 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋