A friend, who I have a crush on, asked me to start working out with him. The first few workouts we talked and laughed and seemingly had a good time. Then after that he started showing up very late without and apology or an excuse and put earphones in his ears that made it nearly impossible to communicate.
It's clear he's not into me, which is not a crime, but I'm also battling feeling angry at his rude and childish behavior. Am I whacked out because I like him too much or do I have a right to be pissed?
2006-12-16 02:24:23 · 7 answers · asked by Sheryl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you considered that he might not regard any of his past behavior towards you as flirtation and might just be in the gym to work out? He doesn't owe you an explanation for being late unless he promised to come at a certain time. The headphones thing COULD be an attempt to tune you out, or he might just be trying to get in the zone for his workout. Either way, it's not an ideal time for conversation.
You could try saying, "hey, I haven't talked to you in a while -- we should catch up after you're done with the weights", and see what happens.
If he's still a cold fish, then don't take it personally. There are a million reasons a guy might act that way, many of which have nothing to do with you.
2006-12-16 02:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's your friend, you should talk to him rationally about how he is acting. Try not to flip out, but honestly! If he asks you, a friend, to workout with him, the least he can do is be open to talking during the workout, or at least tell you why he doesn't want to talk anymore.
His behavior is rude and childish, so you do have a right to be pissed at him. The way he is treating you is not the way that someone treats a friend, and you can feel perfectly justified in telling him that his actions are hurting your feelings.
2006-12-16 10:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by Katra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not that you like him too much or that you have a right to be angry: it's both. Maybe confront him next time he shows up late and say 'Listen, if this isn't time isn't working for you, maybe we should reschedule.' Try not to be harsh or mean, just say it politely. If he says no, you can bring earphones next time. If it still gets worse, tell him you've chosen to work out at another time. You're wasting your time if you know he's not into you anyway.
2006-12-16 10:33:46 · answer #3 · answered by marajader2d2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who knows? I would wager though the guy has himself a nice narcissistic ego and he's playing some cruddy game with you.Just forget him (and get over the crush-he in all probability picked up on that in the beginning) and continue working out by yourself or not, whatever you want, but leave him alone, he sounds as though he has unhealthy problems you don't need to have to tolerate. He's rude and childish.
2006-12-16 10:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he asked you to come with him, then showed up late and ignored you, you have every right to be angry. I would be too. If he didnt want you to go, why'd he ask? And no, this isnt a "liking" him thing. If my female best friend did that to me, id be pissed. If you two are friends, you need to have that mutual respect. If he doesnt, tell him you have better friends and that you value yourself too much. Good luck, honey.
2006-12-16 10:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by peas4362 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself an earphone set and ignore him. Watch his response. This should bring him to his senses soon enough. If he doesnt improve, you have the choice to change your workout time. Do that, if required and check if he also changes his timings to match yours.
2006-12-16 10:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by greenhorn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep working out and getting in fabulous shape...then when he does start to notice...you can be busy or found someone else.
2006-12-16 10:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋