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I'm going out with somebody but there are several other guys at school that like me. I want a polite way to tell them no because I'm worried one of them may hurt my boyfriend

2006-12-16 02:22:09 · 23 answers · asked by marajader2d2 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

23 answers

"Thanks, you're very sweet and I'm flattered, but I'm involved with someone I care for very much. Thanks again." Said with a smile.

You've turned him down, not said anything personally hurtful, and made it clear you're taken.

2006-12-16 02:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

All that you can do is be polite, sweet and if one asks you out instantly say 'no'. Don't let the question hang out there, it needs to be firm.
Firstly, do not allow a fear, or intimidation change how you respond.
The two issues of saying no and the safety of your boyfriend though both important must be handle separately. If you think about 'what ifs' and don't respond promptly it will only cause the guys to think they stand a chance and make the problem bigger.
Secondly, treat any threat to your boyfriend as a individual event and respond as if you or he would in that case. Teacher, parent, principle police.
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2006-12-16 02:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

i do not trust that is a sin to "reject" someones love. i imagine the bigger 'sin', is to settle for that love, understanding you do not experience the same way about that man or woman. because it's going to under no circumstances exercising recurring! under no circumstances! it may very last many years, yet interior the right, the start position of what that courting is outfitted on is all a lie! it's going to fall aside in the right! at the same time, besides the indisputable fact that, i'd be extremely careful in the way you're taking care of a difficulty which includes that. You under no circumstances favor to be recommend or hateful.. under no circumstances deliberately damage someone who's showing you straightforward thoughts! You under no circumstances can tell.. because in a while on your existence, as you study and develop, you may locate that you do have thoughts for that similar man or woman. in case you burnt that bridge, you've killed any probability. you'll locate love at the same time as that's meant to be! i will inform you that one from authentic experience! do not settle for some thing a lot less that what you recognize you want and extremely deserve! Take care and good success! ~SouthernGirl

2016-11-30 20:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by plyler 4 · 0 0

When you already have a boyfriend, it's usually easier to turn someone down, because they can be assured that it's nothing personal, you're just committed to someone else. I'd thank the person, and let them know that you're flattered that they were interested. But, you are in a committed relationship with someone else.

If the person is someone who could actually hurt your boyfriend, I don't think there is anything that you can say. You need to take direct action by keeping your boyfriend informed of what is going on, and even calling the authorities if the person is an immediate threat to him.

2006-12-16 02:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by peabodyblue2 2 · 0 1

Try saying something like this: I am very flattered, but I am not looking into builing new relationships right now. Or something like, I am with someone else who'd I'd like to get to know more before getting into others. Or just say, I'm single but don't wanna mingle. But if that all fails then say "call me sometime" and give them the number to the rejection hotline- 1-248-262-6861

2006-12-16 02:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by Pooge 2000 3 · 0 0

You don't have to do anything. When they would see you w/ your boyfriend, they'll be discoureged and they would decide to stop to fancy you. If that does not work, just show them kindness, don't be harsh w/ them. It really does hurt when you see the one you like w/ another man, you know. Believe me, they'll soon lose interest in you once they found out that you have a new boyfriend..

2006-12-16 03:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by 'd campus Hearthrob 1 · 0 0

Be direct...but don't do "We can be just friends" thing. This is tricky now...Because you are going to reject him and hook up with someone else to parade around with...trust me he's not going to like you inside for some time, so don't rub salt in the wound by trying to be his friend to clear your conscious. If you really like this person...set him free. This is hard, but Play the Be-otch Role and let him hate you for while until he gets over it. His hatred will allow him to get over you quicker and move on which ultimately everyone wants to do. You playing the friend role only gives him hope of rekindling and this is only going to end badly for you both.

2006-12-16 02:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by Laughing Man Copycat 5 · 0 1

In a very sympathetic way, tell them that they are good guys and all, but you are already taken and that they should move on to finding someone else. If they hurt him, hurt them back!! Kick them in the balls!!! >.<

2006-12-16 02:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by Sarahie 2 · 0 1

its best not to reject anyone

just stay friends

if you think somebody would try to hurt your boyfriend, if the guy has guns or knives, tell him about it, otherwise just avoid whoever would try hurting somebody for no reason

only mean people would do that, I don't want to be around mean people and you shouldn't either

2006-12-16 02:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0 2

Just tell them that you are just not interested to be their gf. And, you're seeing someone at the moment. If they try to hurt you or your bf, get police or people that can help you to settle the matter for you.

2006-12-16 02:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by CM C 2 · 0 1

Reject them with a sweet smile and humility. Tell them you could be great friends only if they don't mind.

2006-12-16 02:31:16 · answer #11 · answered by peaceman 4 · 0 0

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