2006-12-16 01:39:17 · 18 answers · asked by hope 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Unfortunately, a lot of people forget the things other do for them. Maybe a subtle reminder would be in order.
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2006-12-16 01:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by truth_handler 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Like most people said, they're probably trying to keep it small for financial reasons. Since you recently planned a wedding, you know how it is - grandma insists that you invite great Aunt Edna and your loser 2nd cousin Joey or she's gonna pout. This goes on with both sides of the family, and by the time you're done the bride and groom can barely invite the people THEY want - much less their parent's friends.
I'm personally not a huge fan of weddings anyway. The receptions are like attending a bad show. The groom's sister needs to sing a song-like a cheesy Brian Adam's one, (applause) every family member has a few uncomfortable words to say...and they drag on and on about some really embarrassing event (applause)...watch as each pair of the wedding party dances, the maid of honor stand up to give a speech and whips out 3 hand written pages...for goodness sakes.
Anyway, don't take it personally it's most likely it's just a money thing. At least you didn't have to spend $100 on a gift and more on an outfit!
2006-12-16 10:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by I have ideas... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Methinks you are suffering from an inflated sense of self-entitlement.
There could be a number of reasons why you were not included. Your grammar is a bit off, so I am unsure as to whether you are not invited to their daughter's wedding, or you are not invited to the wedding of your two friends. Assuming it is the former, it's quite possible the bride and groom have decided to invite only family and their closest friends.
The idea of inviting people scarcely known by the bridal couple simply because they are friends of their parents is an absurd social act and should be dispensed with the sooner the better.
If you are still feeling slighted, perhaps you can take comfort in the fact that you'll be saving money by not buying a gift and a new outfit for the wedding.
2006-12-16 10:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by castle h 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Weddings are not really about reciprocation. It's mostly about family. People's family dynamics are very different. Some like showy weddings where they invite the whole world, others like to keep it family. Don't lose your friends over a wedding invitation, because this is where you are headed. The more you dwell on this, the bigger your resentment grows. Just buy a nice gift(s), for the couple(s), and call it a day.
2006-12-16 13:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You in invited them to your daughters wedding presumably because you love them and wanted them to share in your joy not in anticipation of reciprocation. It is sad but there could be so many reasons why you were not invited.Be the better person and try to forgive them this slight.
Be most gracious by not bringing this up to them. They are aware that they did not invite you so it will only cause tension to mention it.Congradulate the family and move on.
2006-12-16 17:54:53 · answer #5 · answered by yeah , yeah whatever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it was YOUR DAUGHTER who invited them! Maybe their daughters don't know you? I mean, I wouldn't invite my mum's friends to my wedding! At my wedding (well, not sure I'll ever get married, but let's assume I will), I'll only invite people I know personally! I mean, a wedding is supposed to be a moment you share with people you love, not with your mother's friends! So your friends had probably nothing to do with the fact that you were not invited, anyway. And, as everybody said, maybe they didn't have much money and decided to have a small wedding.
And YOU'RE the one saying they don't have manners?!
2006-12-16 13:12:18 · answer #6 · answered by Offkey 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to ask but did you invite them in anticipation of your being invited to theirs? There is no hard and fast rule that we have to reciprocate everything we receive! It may not always be practical!
2006-12-16 09:49:26 · answer #7 · answered by Sami V 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have to understand, sometimes the couple only have so much for their budget. They probably are not trying to be rude, just they don't have room. Family comes first over friends so don't feel bad about not getting invited. Send them a congrats card and wish them well. Trust me it will come back to you some day. Don't take it personal.
2006-12-16 12:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by kukuroo2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they are trying to keep the weddings small. as by inviting all the friends of the different families has a habit of making a large crowd.
2006-12-16 09:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by WhiteHat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not always possible to do this - perhaps their circumstances totally got in the way of their wanting to invite you.
2006-12-16 12:09:03 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋