I have a best friend who ive know for nine years and is a girl seems to be the object of my girlfriend's wrath. Ive been with my girlfriend over a period of three years, and early on in the relationship i had disclosed that i had "feelings" for my best friend, but that was when i was during the first year of being friends with the girl. My girlfriend ultimately believes that "i chose my best friend over her". Yes, I hangout with my friend once every two or three weeks. But my girlfriend is totally wrong about me. I love my girlfriend to death, and i dont want to lose her. I think its just sad that she would want to end the relationship on a theory that is baseless. Oh, and yes i've attempted to have my girlfriend meet my friend, but she refuses to want to meet them or my friends. And ive tried to reaffirm the fact that i love my girlfriend, and that my friend is only that.
2006-12-16 01:17:29 · 10 answers · asked by hokage 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can see that you are going through a hard time in trying to prove your girlfriend that you love her and that she is the only one.For having a crush on your best friend may that be the least of your worries because of that you seem to be like a person is going for the person and emotions and not body if you know what I mean.The fact that your girlfriend thinks that you are cheating on her or whatever in my advice just take it easy and cool.Show her a bit of your self - esteem otherwise you are doomed because you and I perfectly know that girls no matter how enloved they are they just love to dominate.Treat her nice as you always have but with a slight difference that you do not have to prove yourself over and over again, eventually she will realize that she was wrong, girls will never admit that the boy was right,so just let her be for some time and you will see how the things change.Believe me because I went through the same situation just like you and I won if you want to call it victory.
Good luck man
2006-12-16 01:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you girlfriend is acting "over jealousy" and "selfish" cuz all 'drama' shes making. A relationship is a fact of two... and im totally agree People should have their personal life with them still. i mean you have your own world, she have her own world even when you guys are couple. Maybe you do things she doesnt like and in reverse. I think you gotta show her that you have your own space and you have your friends and you want to hang out with them. Her bad if she doesnt trust you that much. Think about what it would be living with her all your life. YUCk!
2006-12-16 01:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by *live,laugh,love* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a sticky situation. I personally believe that a relationship need to have trust. That means that if your girlfriend wants to continue being with you she needs to trust you. I can understand her doubt though, especially if you spend time with your female friend without her. I would make a supreme effort to include your girlfriend each time you want to hang out with your female friend. Let her know you are not trying to hide anything and wish to include her in your activities.
2006-12-16 01:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
even though you love her it seems like she cant understand of comprehend the fact that you also love your friend, as a friend of course, and that even though you love her more she keeps denying if i were you if she kept it up then you should probably leave her even though it would be hard you should find someone who can understand that you have a best friend thats a girl and can get over that fact
2006-12-16 01:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by Matt Koz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear, you can not sail on two boats together! If you love your girlfriend to death then you should better maintain a safe distance from your friend...if she is your true friend she will understand your situation.
2006-12-16 01:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already messed up by saying anything about your feelings to your gf about your best friend. Mums the word. Mums the word!
2006-12-16 01:22:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ahh.. she lacks trust in you. trust is a very important ingredient for a successful relationship. that's really difficult. just be patient with her. show her how much you mean to her. talk to her. ask her to trust you. ask her what the problem is. ask her what makes her think that you have feelings for your bestfriend. it takes two to tango. and only the two of you could resolve your problem. also, don't forget to pray and ask for God's guidance.
2006-12-16 01:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sirius 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you told her you have feelings for someone other than her, and she feels threatened... if SHE told you she had feelings for her male friend, you would have a FIT if she went to him and hung out! give her up or the best friend... dont hang out with One of them...
2006-12-16 01:21:11 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends.... who do u like the most? If u like both the same time.. u should maybe dump your girlfriend and go out with nobody or go out with somebody different!!
godd luck
2006-12-16 01:24:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-12-16 01:26:24 · answer #10 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋