Why is it so difficult for some people to find a partner and yet others find it easy?

Question

Some people seem to be always single - yet others seem to go from one long term relationship to another!

Answer 1

I believe that the better your genes etc the harder to find a partner (not every1 will have the best genes to match with you) the ones with not so good genes will find it very easy to find a partner as there are more people with bad genes (not special or weird, ugly people)

Answer 2

Every human being is just a little bit different. But some people have certain quirks of character or behaviour that just, somehow, make others back away from them. Some people are absolutely magnetic and everybody who comes into contact with them are drawn to them. Others are like magnets in reverse. For most of us, there's SOMEBODY out there who is going to find them "Mr. or Ms. Right. But there are some, too, who, sadly, for whatever reason it might be and often you can't even put a finger on it, just don't "click" with anyone at all. It could be a "manner" about them, the way they interract with other people that makes you feel "uncomfortable". Often it's something that COULD be fixed - but, gee, who is going to tell them? I mean, who looks another person right in the eye and says "Y'know, I really don't want to have anything to do with you because I can't stand the way you keep sucking on your teeth when you talk" or "sorry, but you gross me out the way you keep picking at your face/ interrupt other people when they are talking/ you are always so whiney.
There are also people who, just like animals, have adopted a certain "pecking order". They have no self confidence, so they go about acting like the "runt" of the pack... or else the opposite, they have so much confidence in themselves that they always try to dominate everything around them. That doesn't go down too well with most people. Once again, they probably don't even know what it is they are doing wrong. All they know is they they are just flat out "unlucky in love". They will most probably never find out what it is that is pushing others away from them. The only way they might, would be if they go see a Relationship Specialist and get a complete "Behaviour Evaluation" But not many even think of doing that, probably because they cannot first accept that there IS anything wrong with them, which is surprising.because you'd think they'd have to know SOMETHING was.

Answer 3

i would say some people are desperate for love or couldn't stand being alone that they are always dependant and therefore easily end up in a relationship but suffers through many unsuccessful relationships because they were in a rush and didn't consider the consequences of being with certain person while some people find it difficult to get a partner because they have exquisite taste or probably taking their time because they're choosy or cautious or occupied with different priority..sometimes it's rather ure fated to be with that person or not

Answer 4

I would like to say my opinion about this my queen ... some people seek things in the other partner ... and on the other hand some people don't look for alot of things ....the first group who always want alot of things in their other partner are always right and succeed in their relations .. because they simply put the elements that the good relation depends on ... they appreciate the love and being in love, they know the meaning of respect and being loyal and honest ....so they are rarely find what they are looking for because you hardly find the one who has all what you want.... but people who don't seek alot ...take it as adventure so it could be the right choice or the bad one as well....so they are always in search for the mirage of being in love but they don't know how exactly it looks like .. so they keep searching ...but you can improve your chance to find the right person by asking your self what are you looking to find in your right person ...... my best wishes for all ....because love is life

Answer 5

I think its to do with state of mind and whether or not you're looking. i've been with my boyfriend for over a year and seem to have had alot more offers than when I was single. I think its because I'm more confident now and find it easier to talk to people

if you're not on the lookout for anyone you seem to get alot more interest. also be careful where you look and who you're attracting - its unlikely you'll find the man of your dreams drunk in a nightclub, far more likely if you're doing your own thing and pursuing your hobbies

Answer 6

what are you looking for in a relationship? People who are constantly jumping from relationship to relationship are either very lucky, or more likely don't have very high expectations. People who are generally single, tend to demand a lot more from a relationship, making it harder for them to get one, but in the end, they will always find just the right guy.

Answer 7

I really don't know some of my friends who are no prettier or more outgoing than the rest go from one relationship to the next. (and not just flings, proper well suited relationships) whereas some of us have never found anyone to have a substantial relationship with.

Answer 8

It's the person who wants to go out with the other. Some people have hard times asking people out and others don't! It really does depend!! :)

Answer 9

Maybe they were as daft as i was,i made a comment that the g/f did not like all i said was don't Asian girl/ladies seem more loving kind and that many of them were very attractive,never had any more dates not to worry though as far i can make out,every one to his/her own

Answer 10

Some people are out going and some are not, and some come on to hard so the other one gets chased away. just go out and talk to people, and stop looking then that's when your mate comes along.