I'm 12 and my mom mean to me.WHen ever I ask to hang out with my friends she turns it into this big deal and trys to make me feel bad by saying all you care about is your friends which isn't true.I went to the movies with my two of my friends last night and was going to get a ride home with one of my friends ,but then the other one would have to wait for her dad to pick her up all alone So we had fifty cents so she tried calling her house to tell her dad to pick us up ,but there was no answer so she left a message.We waiting maybe 20 minutes and no one came.We asked the front desk guy to use the cinema's phone ,but it doesn't call out.I knew my mom was worrying to death ,but there was no way I could call her.then finally after and hour of waiting the front desk guy let us use his cellphone.I called my mom and she picked me and my friend up.My mom started screaming at me and grounded me.i woke up the next morning and try and talk but she won't listen. She thinks I'm on drugs,but I'm not
2006-12-16 00:34:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to plan better. She thinks you're on drugs because you don't have enough sense to plan for a ride home. You need to be a little smarter than that. You should know better. Otherwise, you really are the dumb kid that's on drugs because everything you do makes it seem like you are dumb and on drugs.
If you don't want your mom to think you are a dumb a*ss, then stop being one.
2006-12-16 00:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 yrs. old is a hard age on daughter and on mother,you're personality is finding it's own. mom is secretly feeling like she is loosing her little girl. so the more time you want to spend with friends the more she feels like she is loosing you. she wants to trust you. i have a feeling there might be alittle more to this story than what you're telling. something has happened in the past for mom not to trust you,only you know what that is. stop making excuses of why you did'nt contact her and start doing like you are supposed to , it's the only way she will be able to rebuild the trust. she worries about you and she loves you and only wants what is best. sometimes mom forgets that we can't keep you from making the same mistakes that we made at that age, it all part of growing up. sometime when you haven't been arguing or debating a situtation,just talk to her and tell her you'd be willing to take a drug test to prove to her you're not using drugs. this should help build that trust factor. reassure her she did a good job and still is in raising a good girl. but you are growing up and need a little space. maybe the 2 of you can work out a way for you and her to have time together and for you to have time with your friends also. as this is part of growing up and mature. good luck and MERRY CHRISTMAS. hope it all works out for both of you, if nothing else have her take a look at all the answers and your letter. that would surely open the door for conversation..
2006-12-16 09:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by hummybird 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice if you and your mom could see a counselor. Start off by going to see your school counselor by yourself and see if she can help you. Maybe you could write your mom a very sincere letter about how you feel. I am the mother of three daughters and sometimes it's hard and frustrating and I probably don't always listen like I should.
Write her a letter telling her you want her to trust you and that you are at an age where friendships are very important, but you love her and want a good relationship with her. Also, if she truly thinks you are on drugs and is not just saying that to be rude to you, tell her you will submit to a drug screen. She can buy a kit for around $12 and it might make her feel better.
Don't worry--we've all been your age once and we survived!
2006-12-16 08:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My dear, this is a hard one: I believe you and how to get your Mom to do the same? Can you talk to some adult at school whom you trust about this situation? Your Mom maybe would listen to another grown up (how about a relative or one of your friend's parents)- does your Mom have a lot of personal problems right now that you know of? If so, she is most likely very stressed out and not being fair to you. I would suggest that you sit down with a teacher or trusted relative and go from there. I wish you all the best.
2006-12-16 08:46:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a mother of 3 son's and I know at times we can be hard but we are only looking out for your best interests. Maybe your mother is seeing a pattern in your behavior that she doesn't like. Try staying home more often rather that being with friends. Also try writing her a letter telling her how you feel. It's easier writing it than saying it. Good luck!
2006-12-16 08:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by Dyme Diva 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just stay out your moms way for a bit. Don't go out or have friends over for a bit. Also help her around the house or offer to cook that evening. If she thinks that you are on drugs make a docs appt and ask for a blood test to be done to prove her wrong.
Just be nice to her and stay in her good books.
2006-12-16 11:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by zfariyzz 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your being honest with us and your mom, then I suggest you sit down and write her a letter, explaining in detail about why she grounded you.
Parents sometimes go over board because they get paniced or scared. Because they over react, they don't want us knowing about it.
In the letter tell your mom you know she cares and was worried. Tell her you were also affraid for your friend to be left alone!!
IF your not on drugs, then prove it to her by telling her she's free to take a drug test on you!!
2006-12-16 09:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know your mom does not hate you.She is worried about you.She thinks you are on drugs because you don't listen and plan.Tell your mom you are willing to do a drug test{you can get them for home use}at her will,at any time.This may ease her mind a little.Plan your outings better.Make sure your ride will be there.Make your mom your ride if need be.Any thing you have to do to ease her mind of you being a druggy.This a parents number one fear.Good luck.
2006-12-16 09:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by birdlady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound so young and immature. Your mother was probably freaking out because you were at the movies alone and she didn't know what was happening to you since you couldn't call. You definitely need to talk to your mom, get a cellphone, and go to the movies with an adult.
2006-12-16 10:30:53 · answer #9 · answered by snowbird 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could offer to take a drug test to prove you aren't on drugs. Offer to take 2 tests on 2 different occasions (or even more tests if necessary). You can just go to a doctor, and he'll take a urine sample to test. if she doesn't believe you after that, then it is her problem and she is unreasonable. Aside from that, all you can do is try your best to be honest with her and follow the rules, and hopefully she will begin to trust you.
I know it is tough. good luck!
2006-12-16 10:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋