i have a wonderful bf, but i somehow feel resentful towards him. he has a fantastic life, footballer, personal trainer, loads of mates, great home life, great family, no problems, moving into his new house with his mate xmas eve. i however am quite sad as i had a bad childhood, dont talk to my mum, live with my dad n his gf, the house is full of shouting, i dont have a job i want to do and it is goin to take me a few yrs to get qualified in what i want to do. i dont have a lot of friends, and when he is out with his mates i dont really have alot to do. i feel really down in my life as i want a lot of friends and i want a good job and i do want to be happy, its just not happening, and i cant help feelin jealouse when im with my bf, his fone always goin off, gettin invited out all the time, when i struggle to find things to do :( any advise
2006-12-16 00:11:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are pathetic. You should be grateful that your boyfriend is still with you. Why can't you make friends with his friends? Their friends must have friends too.
You should take a good look at yourself in the mirror. You blame everyone around you for your problems and unhappiness, but it's all your fault. You're the one that needs to change and have a more positive outlook. You can blame your parents for this and that, and you can blame your circumstances for this and that, but that's not going to solve your problem.
You will always be unhappy if you just keep blaming others for your unhappiness. Get your own life. You seem really pathetic waiting for him to come to you. Don't you have anything to do? No hobbies? No school? No job? No friends? Do you see the problem here? The problem is not other people. The problem is you.
2006-12-16 00:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We can't change our past or the lives we were born into, but we can change our outlook and how we deal with life. Don't be bitter or angry over your life, that will only prevent you from making positve changes in your outlook. Try this, ask yourself would you like to be your friend? If you take an honest look at yourself, you may see why people are not ringing your phone. I know there have been times in my life that I wouldn't have wanted to be my friend. Use your boyfriend as a role model. You are really going to have to do some soul-searching and start making some positive changes. Focus on the positive and you will start to emerge as a person people will gravitate towards. Hey, when life hands you lemons.....get started on the lemonade!
2006-12-16 08:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bf certainly sounds like a nice guy. your resentfulness toward him doesn't seem like its because of him. it seems like its because of you feeling sorry for yourself, both your current and prior experiences. talk with him about exactly how you feel, and exactly why you feel that way. some of us guys aren't into the whole "feelings" thing. a lot of us struggle with that, but a lot of us get to be pretty darn good at it too. you sound lonely, and you sound like you need some dedicated tlc. if your bf is as wonderful as you say he is, and you tell him you are having some personal probs, he'll take the time to set his life aside for at least a few moments for you or longer if you need it. if he doesn't support you in your time of need now, he probably isn't going to be a good match for you down the road, and if thats the case, you may want to start looking elsewhere for guys that have your needs in mind at least as much, if not more, than theirs.
2006-12-16 08:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by G A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r looking at it the wrong way......think how lucky u r....u have a really nice bf...so be happy with what u have :)....move on with life....dont be jealous about him....coz if u do u might say something mean and start fights...and eventually u may break up with him....then u lose everything!...so just be happy that u hav a great guy in ur life...and btw...if u love him u should be happy for him...shouldnt be feeling jealous...thats kinda mean..no offence
2006-12-16 08:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by chipmunk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful for what you do have. Also, start to look at your life and what you can do to be happy with yourself. Volunteer, help someone else - it will make you feel better and focus on positive things and thoughts. God Bless!:)
2006-12-16 08:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by j b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋