with just mum, she focuses on me, takes things out on me and im lonely without any siblings. i dont like my life at the moment especially with friend issues on top of this, how can i just be happy
2006-12-15 23:25:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I grew up with a domineering mother and no real family, either. I've had to make my own family. Maybe your mother will remarry and it'll get her off your back. Until then you can make new friends and use them as a substitute for the "real" family you are needing...
2006-12-15 23:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when I go to a friends place I see how happy she is with her dad and sometimes wish I had a father like that. I am the oldest out of all me sisters (including step sisters) and I have always wanted an older brother but there is absolutely no hope in having one now. For some reason I think my life would be better if I had a NORMAL father around the house or even a brother but at other times I wouldn't have it any other way.
I find it very hard when it comes to talking to men/male and..well... sometimes I think I would be more able to talk to them if I had a father figure or brother around.
Right now just focus on what you have than what you don't. There are alot worse positions you could be in. It seems to me you mum might be taking things out on you because something is bothering her. She might be saying things like "give me a break" Or " why cant...."
Don't bug her into telling you what is wrong. she is your mother. If you bug her to tell you her problems she will get upset and take it out on you more. Just keep calm and if you have to, do what I do. If she gives you a lecture on something you have heard about before block her out, don't listen and nod when she says "do you understand". You mum does love you. If I'm wrong tell her your problems she might be able fix it instead of you waiting for something to happen.
Don't go complaining to your friends either. It will just give a negitive "vibe" (couldn't think of anyother word) and they will just be negitive back just talk to them casually if you have to tell them something. They should show you some support.
If you really want a sibling... Look around. you probably have plenty of friends you don't need any siblings. friends are the family you choose for your self. so take your pick.
Hope I've helped.......GOOD LUCK
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2006-12-15 23:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by gottaluvme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not easy for you I am sure. Trust me there is rarely a normal family. From the outside looking in it might look normal. Talk to your mom and tell her how you feel. I'm sure your mom loves you...you are her whole life. Some kids would say you are lucky.
I raised my son on my own and he would often say and still does...'I bet we would not have as much fun if there was a grumpy man around'...He is probably right. I guess my son never got lonely cause I would play computer games with him and do things with him that probably siblings would. A single mom has to be dad, siblings and mother...It can't be easy for your mum so spare a thought for her.
2006-12-15 23:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by JadeNicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot have whatever you want.
But you can definitely make the best out of what you aready have.
We all come across problems. All one's life, there is nothing but problems exist around us. A happy person is a person who is able to solve problems. One of the solutions is go to church. Jesus Christ is your forever friend. You will never be lonely, your new church friends will be a lot nicer to you. Tell your problems to God in your prayers everynight, unload your shoulderer all the burdens so that you will not feel so heavy with every step in life. You heart will fill joy.
2006-12-16 01:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by J F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've 2 options. a million) stay with your mom the position your sister, brother and mom choose your help. this kind you'd be deliberating others and being unselfish. 2) bypass with your dad stay a good existence yet, forsaking those who choose your help and basically taking the elementary way out. no count number what selection you're making there'll be a wall that receives on your way. Mum= Having to artwork flat out. Dad= Having to handle the actual incontrovertible truth that your dad isn't satisfied about the way that you're. i in my opinion, if i replaced into on your shoes, would bypass with your mom because i'd be deliberating others and under no circumstances basically myself. no count number what you pick, i choose the superb. and that i'm hoping that your destiny is crammed with mild.
2016-11-30 20:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take a minute to think about how blessed you are to have your Mom. So many kids are alone in foster care or orphanages this Christmas and have no real family. You and your Mom have each other. Try to build a close relationship with her and be thankful for her.
2006-12-16 01:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to accept the reality, i grew up in a single parent family also, tons of thousands of people are just like you and me and they are going on fine, some are even more attached to their family because they treasure their loved ones even more. i think you should cherish every momment with your mom and stop complaining. this is life.
2006-12-16 00:38:42 · answer #7 · answered by FairGround 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm very sorry to hear that you're having a hard time in life, but honestly wish you all the best.
good luck
2006-12-15 23:32:35 · answer #8 · answered by Valencianista 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there, you can't have everything! at least you have a mum! didn't you think of orphans? They don't have either of them. Be happy of what you have.
2006-12-16 01:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day maybe you can have your own.
2006-12-15 23:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by elliebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋