i met a girl on a cruse ship that i worked on, she is from Hungary and is v famous, the fame is not the reason i want to be with her its just she makes me feel special and wanted, i am happy with her, she is Hungarian and i am English, this is not a prob as we enjoy teaching each other new words etc, when she said goodbye to me she looked me in the eyes and said she loved me and never felt this way before, the prob was that she was engaged to a guy back home, but she says she loves me more, i also have a girlfriend but all we do is argue, i know u all think im a *astard for doing this but i was always told to do what makes me happy, but my girlfriend in the uk is having my baby in march, what should i do????
2006-12-15 23:23:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can be there for your baby without being with the mother. youll be mierable if you you stay with her for the baby only, and thats not healthy for a child to grow up around.
2006-12-16 01:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by LL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a little bit more time .just well do you know this girl from hungary .you can't just believe when someone tells you they love you .do you love her ?do her actions towards you reflect the love that she professes.and your girlfriend in the uk ,if you fight all the time then maybe you guys have ireconcilable differences and need to find a solid solution to end the fighting or call it quits .at the end of the day ,stay true to your heart .make sure that whatever your choice is ,its the best for you .it may even mean being on your own .oh and definately being a good father to your unborn child
2006-12-15 23:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by marysunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be scared because you know in March you are going to have to be responsible for a baby. Now if you do not love the mother of the baby then don't marry just for the baby. You need to really search your heart before you do anything. Your heart will show you the way. If you marry the baby moms just because you feel you have too you are doing no one a favor. Good luck
2006-12-15 23:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOur girlfriend is having a baby, you have an obligation to help take care of the baby. I think what happened on the cruise ship was just infatuation. Forget about this hungarian woman and take care of the family you started back home.
2006-12-15 23:27:19 · answer #4 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you should have a little talk with your girlfriend. it seems to me that you aren't feeling special or wanted. truth is, friend, that think as to how your girlfriend is feeling. a little empathy never hurt anyone. your girlfriend is pregnant and i'm sure that she's going through a lot of hormonal changes - duh. perhaps that's why you guys have been arguing so much. you should talk with your girlfriend about what you feel is lacking in your relationship and work things out. honestly, how would you feel if your son or daughter followed their "heart" when a child was on the way.
another thing to add, this hungarian girl . . . how many times do you think she said she loved someone more than her fiance to other guys? something to ponder.
2006-12-15 23:39:07 · answer #5 · answered by Shakti Svātantrya Isa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of others, before you think of yourself! You had sex with your g/f, she wasn't bad then, was she? And what about your baby? do you want her/him to spend the rest of it's life wondering who it's dad was? searching for you? That's what will happen! Be a man and make a life with the g/f now and rear your child as any real man would! Forget this Hungarian girl, she'll fade into the woodwork! Give your child a chance in life that a lot of children never get!
2006-12-15 23:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just had a gf it would be one thing but the fact that she's having ur baby is what makes the situation worse. Follow your heart not your penis
2006-12-15 23:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by space case 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take care of the kid and stuff...........but i would probuly go for the girl on the crusie ship. Which ever girl your heart says to be with go with her. Plus the hungray girl told you she loves you, that's a big deal when a girl tells a guy to his face, that she loves him.
2006-12-15 23:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by loverforever150 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just whatever happens make sure to be part of your childs life and support them.
2006-12-15 23:27:10 · answer #9 · answered by Nick_L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone wants to be happy so go for it, just make sure you take responsibility for you kid.
some people might say stay for the kid, but i say wat gud will it be for the kid if all its pareents do is argue. follow your heart man.
2006-12-15 23:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by evets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋