If you have a disability which people can't see, at what point during a social relationship should you tell?

Question

I've always believed in being honest with myself and with others. While I've never had much interest in dating people, I'm coming to realize that I am a little lonlier than I'd like to be. I also have a rather unusual cognitive disability, the type that, if I don't share information about it, I will inevitably be perceived as making some serious social mistakes later in the relationship. I'm perfectly comfortable talking about my disability with others, but I get a nagging impression that many people are not at all comfortable with me talking about myself in such depth. It seems to come across as being either self-deprecating or overly self-interested when it is simply a factual matter and significant aspect of my life. When is the best time in a social (or more serious) relationship to bring up such important topics? What is the best way to do so?

One suggestion was "If it gets serious, then tell." The problem is that the nature of my disability is that I can practically guarantee that a social faux-pas WILL occur long before the time the relationship becomes serious, so its something I definitely feel like I need to address much sooner rather than later. This is, of course, what leads to the impression that I am self-conceited or self-deprecating, because of the urgency which I feel that this issue must be addressed.

Answer 1

i think it all depends on the other person and when you feel comfortable enough talking to that person. I guess I am just the type that feels like everything happens in its own time and you should tell what you are comfortable with and when it is a time you know the other person is able to listen and understand you.
Just state the facts and don't make excuses for how you feel. You have the right to be who you are. Take it easy on yourself and make the other person feel comfortable enough to ask you questions!
Hope this helps you out!

Answer 2

You don't have to know if the other person is starting to feel serious about you, if you are starting to feel serious about them you should definitely tell. I think though that you should keep it simple. "I have a disability it is called *****". That way you don't overwhelm them in all the details and if they want to know more they can ask. It would also protect you somewhat. There is no sense in baring your soul to someone and giving them all the painful details of your life if they are not willing to stick around.

Answer 3

I'd say after you are at a point where you realize there is mutual interest outside of just being "friends". At this point, it would seem likely they'd be understanding. Plus, you'll also realize they'll accept you for who you really are.

Answer 4

When the relationship becomes serious

Answer 5

I have about the same disability..................i would tell them right away, that way they know this is who you are and they can't change it. I always tell people straight up, listen i had a brain injury my brother died. tell them right away....