I am in a wonderful relationship with a man, it is a month today since we met and have seen each other about 5 nights a week. We have connected very quickly and I told him about 5 days ago that I love him because I know I do. A couple of days he went to a friends funeral, he had been drinking most of the day and I picked him up from the pub to take him home. He was very drunk but he kept saying I love you sweetheart. I told him to tell me when he was sober as i did. He was so drunk that he tried to open the car door on the motorway. I really lost my temper and was I guess hyperventilating as I was so upset. He said he didnt care about his life but only cared for me and his daughter. I told him we loved him and he was so selfish to say such things. He then got home and cried and cried about his friend where I comforted him on that.
Next day I reminded him of his stupidity in the car. Last night I text him I love him but he only text goodnight sweetheart.Why cant he say it sober
2006-12-15 23:10:11 · 14 answers · asked by Christine C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the beer brings with it stupidity and bravery.
2006-12-15 23:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by phe_03 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because to be that emotionally honest with someone is not easy to do when sober and obviously he does'nt feel comtortable saying deep emotional things when he's sober.
The problem with drink is it can act as truth serum and get emotionally blocked off people to truly express the way life's problems make them feel.
The best thing you can do is talk to him when your both alone together, not over the phone or in a text.
Tell him you love him and no matter what you'll be there for him (if thats how you feel for him) let him know your not tainted by what he's said your more eager to get to know him and love him.
Also give him a stern talking to for trying to jump outa the car whilst drunk on a motorway as he could've killed himself
2006-12-15 23:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a break! His friend has died, you've only been together a month, and considering he has a daughter I'm guessing that he may have loved someone perhaps in the past but it didn't work out.
I'd be more concerned about him trying to kill you both.
2006-12-16 02:37:30 · answer #3 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be concerned that he handles stressful situations by getting drunk. You may consider finding out why you are in love after one month. It takes at least one year before you know what someone is really like.
2006-12-17 03:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by CAJF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the drink can make us all do & say stupid things that we dont really mean at the beat of times, but as your boyfriend had just buried his friend he would be feeling quite down anyway & mixed with drink has made him feel worse,he"l need you to be there for him just now,just try & talk to him about how hes feeling just now & dont pressure him into saying he loves you,he will tell you in time but only when hes ready,just be patient,itl be worth the wait! x
2006-12-15 23:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times sobor is to real and being drunk is anything goes.
Is it important that he say it. I don't say it in this house but I know very well someone knows just how it is. Words are cheap so be aware of that.
2006-12-15 23:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alcohol heightens our emotions so he probably does love you he may just be shy/embarassed. he was probably acting out in the car because of his friend. we all deal with death in different ways. try talking to him, ask him if he wants to talk about his friend, if not dont push it. i suspect he will tell you he loves you when he's ready he may just regret having done it when he was in such a state.
hope it all goes well x x x
2006-12-15 23:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alcohol loosens one's inhibitions maybe he's too embarrassed over the car incident to say it again. Plus I"m sure he was stressed out and depressed from the funeral. Alcohol makes you do stupid things
2006-12-15 23:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, you've only known him for a month. we all know what the average man is like: hear the word commitment and run away. and love often means commitment, so maybe he just isnt ready to say it yet. when drunk, doesn't everyone go around telling everyone they love them? wait for him to feel ready, and when he is ready to say it, itll mean so much more to you.
2006-12-15 23:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds shy to me, a lot of people can only show their true feelings when they are drunk. xx
2006-12-15 23:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by RUTH M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but he just showed you your future.
Is he divorced? Find out why.
Next time don't say love so fast.
2006-12-15 23:25:03 · answer #11 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋