what do you do when you lived with someone and had what seemed like a good relationship for a while .then one day he just leaves ,no word ,no warning ...nothing .obviously no one deserves to be treated like this .is it asking for a reason why asking for too much .im still in shock .particularly because we didn't fight or anything like that before he left .
2006-12-15 23:04:16 · 6 answers · asked by marysunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's a coward and he only cares about himself. dont waste your time giving one more thought to this asshole.
2006-12-15 23:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by HoneyZ2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sucks not knowing... I think that hurts more than anything because, I for one, like to know where I go wrong so in the future I do not make the same mistake.
I am going through a divorce from my wife of over 13 years. We've know each other for over 17 and the biggest issue in our relationship was lack of communication. She still refuses to tell me why she is doing this... I am just guessing it was from this. As hard as this will be to do, I am struggling with this myself, we have to move on. If he just left you and said nothing then it says more about him than it does about you. You know what you put into the relationship; if you did your part then that is all you can do. I know you are asking a general question about men and being one I can say a lot are just simply IMMATURE jerks! However, there are some of us that really want to fall in love, get married, have a family and stay faithful. So do not give up on us!
If I can give a little advice for any relationship- COMMUNCIATE - do not be afraid to disagree as all healthy relationships have arguments. The key is to remain calm and let both sides express their needs and wants. If a resolution can not be found where BOTH are happy then seek a third party you both trust for help. Violence is NEVER acceptable period! Do not lower your standards for anyone or pretend to be someone you are not...it will catch up to you eventually. Do not RUSH into anything- if a guys say he loves you and if you love him you'll do this or that he is a JERK! If he really loves you he will respect you and your needs as much, if not, more than his own.
Good luck!
2006-12-15 23:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough deal. Sorry but I don't have the answer. Relationships that involve intimacy are difficult because of all the things that can go wrong. Some folks seem to be able to handle the closeness better than others. Often, the disappearer is unable to tell the other abut their frustrations, fears, needs, and internal troubles and therebye either release those things are get the feelings satisfied. My only advice is to grieve the loss, feel the pain, and don't beat yourself up because some turkey didn't do right.
2006-12-15 23:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through pretty much the same thing. She never gave any real reason for dumping me. It’s been six months and still no answers. All you can do is try not to blame yourself for his actions and know that someone out there is looking for you and one day you will be truly happy again. I hope you find him soon…
2006-12-15 23:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by Sad jester 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did you make sure that they are okay and safe and if so and they just walked out then they didn't deserve your affection and love if they couldn't show you any respect to tell you why they were leaving Good luck finding true and real love
2006-12-15 23:08:33 · answer #5 · answered by nazwats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason women do...they wanted something, got it, and bailed. It is not a gender issue..it is a person issue
2006-12-15 23:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by Lewis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋