i met my bf online and we are madly in love but lately i have been having feelings for a co worker of mine. i dont know if it is bec my other half lives so far away .Iwant my bf to come live with me but he is reluctant and wont say why? what do i do? persue the co worker or stick it out with the bf?
2006-12-15 22:16:40 · 9 answers · asked by milfy79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are a big mess. First of all, do not date co-workers unless you are prepared to lose your job. It can only end in either you or the other person quitting their current job.
Second of all, there is no such thing as a long distance relationship. You are crazy to think that he is being faithful to you from so far away. You are not in a relationship. Get that through your thick skull. You can only be in a relationship if you are physically together. That's the definition of a relationship. You have nothing. You are not madly in love. If you were madly in love, one of you would have moved to be with the other person already. He probably has another girl that lives locally.
Feel free to date around, but you should never date co-workers. Stupid stupid idea. If you dive in, you should be prepared to lose your job tomorrow.
2006-12-15 22:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some facts for you to consider:
1. Having met someone online, it is impossible to be "madly in love" with him. You don't know him.
2. Your emerging feelings for the co-worker are a sign that your gut instinct is telling you a real life person is preferable to a make-believe one on the internet.
3. Romances in the workplace are never a good idea. If things go sour with the co-worker, you will still have to work with him and that could make things miserable for you.
So: forget the fantasy boyfriend on the internet, forget the co-worker as a potential partner, go out into the real world and find yourself a real person you can get to know and fall in love with.
2006-12-16 06:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there could be a lot of reasons why he doesnt want to move like he doesnt want to rest all his hopes on a relationship that might not work, he could already have a lass where he lives alsorts but you know what your heart wants id really try and have a think about what you really want and need its hard doing the right thing but more fun doing the bad thing, just before you persue someone else just make sure your single its always better to start a new relationship of on the right foot good luck and have fun remember you only have one life you shouldnt have to wait forever to be happy so go get it x x
2006-12-16 06:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by upyafartpipe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
questioning the love you have for your boyfriend because if you LOVED him deeply then you wouldn't be talking to the co-worker which is nothing wrong with that because by your boyfriend being so far away it could be something going on with him as well concerning another but that's not a excuse follow your gut about this co-worker if its good and you have a good time around him why not be friends and maybe more since his in town and you could get more out the relationship physical and emotion with someone that is in town your town
2006-12-16 06:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by nazwats 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, in my opinion you should tell your feelings to your co worker (if you didn't do it yet). Since your bf is far away from you you can't do anything and you might meet him never. Forget the online friends & bf you should look for your real life.
2006-12-16 06:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by mishel_amy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok, i'm in the same boat, but i'm a male... and not falling for anyone close to me... but have a long dis relationship... girl of my dreams 1500 miles apart... everynight i wanna be with her and touch her and make her feel me next to her.... who do you see you having a life with, do you think your long dis bf will move to be with you? if not, then you should listen to your heart.. but if you were really in love you wouldn't be asking this question... whether he's close or far you should know if you want him or your coworker more... please don't jump into something JUST because it is closer! Your online boyfriend could be the man of your life and your soulmate
2006-12-16 06:41:06 · answer #6 · answered by chet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a choice urself, who do u luv most? if ur co-worker go alhad
2006-12-16 06:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by jossy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are trying to keep legs on both stones. Eat the cake & have it too. Think what are you doing.
2006-12-16 06:21:47 · answer #8 · answered by rockylike007 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get rid of the bf and pursue the guy that's there
2006-12-16 06:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by space case 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋