My ex keeps on sending me a busive messages and telling me to drop dead why would someone do this?
i dated him for two and a half years he use to hit me when drunk...and metally abuse me and say i was fat. He says he is happy with his current girlfriend but keeps on being so abusive why would aomeone do this can any one explain. last text he sent was that he cheated on me the whole time we were to gether and got a ******** inthe toilet whilt we were at the cinema when dating. why does someone feel the need to be so abusive what motivates such behaviour? Sorry to ask twice but its really upsetting me...i did text him to say i was pregnant and he jus sent abuse back i just wanted to make peace after so much turmoil? Am i in the wrong why is he doing this?
2006-12-15 21:48:59 · 12 answers · asked by eli g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, he might just hate you. He has a problem. Ignore him.
2006-12-15 21:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/Jotgr
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-23 03:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
substitute ur telephone form. end all contacts with him. in spite of if he's the daddy of ur newborn, he's gonna do no good. So do no longer touch him for any reason. U are extra useful off with out him. tell him that u do no longer desire to work out or hear from him back. Be very sparkling. And if he abuses u back in any style, checklist to the POLICE. U have persevered adequate. Be reliable and take cost. don't be a sufferer. do no longer carry urself to blame for his abusive movements. He does that coz he's a jack@@@ and u enable him to abuse u by making use of responding submissively each and every time. awaken and be reliable.
2016-10-15 01:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I've just been reading your posting, all I can say is that in my opinion he is being utterly abusive out of sheer anger, rage and wants some kind of perverted revenge against you. Infact unconsciously his anger might NOT even be about you at all, it could be a deeper issue about women as a whole or even about his own mother.
Its very hard to say because, what your dealing with is totally IRRATIONAL in nature. You wont be able to reason with him, you could say he's just being the bastard that he really is. And that your better off well away from him.
**My sincere advise is to try and draw a clear boundary with him,
No.1 DONT respond to his abuse in future, he will only carry on give out abuse if he knows he can get a reaction from you.
No.2 Just delete and dont read any further text messages he sends you.
No.3 Dont bye into or feed the energy of his abuse, by not responding or reacting he will loose interest eventually and give up. if he knows he cannot get any attention back from you, or that you cannot be upset by his actions.
NO.4 This abusiveness is also about Power & Control?, he might be angry with you because he's lost his power & control over you and so wants revenge for that sense of loss.
For many men who always like to be very much in control, any loss of that control leaves them feeling very insecure and provokes rage & anger. They just cannot cope with their own feelings of vulnerability and thus respond with anger instead. i.e. you are getting the blame for that sense of loss, that sense of male insecurity, its closely related to issues of masculinity too.
Its quite a complex area in fact.
IR
2006-12-15 22:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me you have an obsessive b*****d on the loose!! He's still mentally controlling you. I would bar his number from your phone, but it sounds to me like he won't give up easilly. Keep the abusive messages and go to the police, people like that need help but most importantly you need to help yourself. Don't let it continue.
2006-12-15 22:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by a-z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously feeling like the idiot he really is. Ignore the messages and get on with life. Does not sound like you will make peace with him.
You are not in the wrong.
2006-12-15 21:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by irpilot747 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly would not be expecting any humanity from someone who hits women and stresses out a someone who is pregnant!
You have a lot to look forward to and of course so much to plan for! Be glad that scum is out of your life and cut off all communication between you and him, you do not want someone like that around your baby!
Put your past behind you, everyone has bad experiences, now its time for beautiful times between you and your baby!
2006-12-15 22:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont say how he is messaging you. Is this by cellphone.
He will probaly keep doing this if he knows it upsets you.
either ignore the messages if they are coming by cell phone and not reply or go to your carrier and have your number changed.
dont give it to anyone who might let him know. Let the carrier know what is happening. They may be able to do something about this also.
Wont hurt to check and find out.
You dont need to be hearing his crap.
You will only suceed in keeping this going by replying to these messages.
dont reply and be giving him a chance to send you more.
change things now. As long as you let him bully you, he is going to keepit up.
He is a looser in my eyes and should be in yours also.
2006-12-15 22:01:36 · answer #8 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A control freak who is really peed off because his victim got away
Well done you
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2006-12-19 08:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like the way he is treating you, stop talking to him. Especially if he is your ex. It doesn't take a genius to figure that out.
2006-12-15 21:53:27 · answer #10 · answered by Low Key 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he is sick i bet his other half does not know he is texting you.
Change you mobile number.
2006-12-15 21:56:28 · answer #11 · answered by Ding Dong 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋