How do you tell when you have someone wrapped around your finger?
BTW, I like it! I'm just asking if that may be what's happening here and if it has happened in your life...
I don't feel like a servant as some of y'all suggested in an earlier question. I just bet some of the guys can tell me what motivates them to use the wrap/finger technique. Is it "power" over the girl or is it a way to feel closer to her?
Do you use it on friends or just girlfriends?
Which am I if I am in this situation?
2006-12-15 21:18:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends... its been taken more seriously by all the posters on here because ur question is not too clear... I had to go back and read ur prev post.
It seems like a cute, harmless thing that brings the real sparks in hte initial stages of a relationship or flirtation... like, he wants u to know that he likes you or that you will do as he wants simply cause you like him that much. I get it, we've all been there - at first. Thats the key point here.
A little too much of this and either of two things can happen:
1. he starts taking you for granted and doesnt really like the fact that you are so easily available.
2. you will get trapped into this 'yes please' habit and either lose yourself in him or get lost in the pent up feelings of resentment. Trust me this happens so slowly and over a period of time, you dont even notice its happened.
Play into it for a while... then snap back. So will he. :) and end up with more respect on all sides for both involved.
2006-12-15 21:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by RealChic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do everything he ask you...
And if you put up with everything he does...even when you don't like it...then he has you around his little finger.
It is power and ego
He also don't have to worry about you living him no matter what he does.
Some would say that he is using you.
But this might not be totally true if he is being generous with you...looks after you and gives you everything you need to be happy.
However if that is not the case...and you are willing to be treated that way because you are not strong enough emotionally to do something about it...that is a bad thing.
2006-12-15 21:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You haven't explained your situation much so can't answer that but usually, all people, not just men, will keep you wrapped around their finger if you let them. Most people will take what they can get and if you're happy to go all out for another person, they will take what you give.
2006-12-15 21:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honest to god i as a guy can not stand the feeling and it's never on purpose, when a girl acts like that it drives me nuts, i don't want her on my little finger, and when that happens it's time she leaves, it happens to me when a girl falls for me and i don't fall for her and i try and politely break it off, and it just won't, and she won't take a hint, and when i tell her we have differences she just says sorry, gives me this puppy dog face, and clings on tighter, i try again, and it happens again.
2006-12-15 21:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you as the girl need to reverse that power thing on the guy you should never give them the upper hand or finger (lol) remember GIRLS RULE
2006-12-15 21:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by nazwats 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people like being dominated. Some don't.
If you do, you need to be extremely self-aware.
It's not cool to get sucked into something and damaged by it.
Therapy is expensive.
If you're unclear, don't go there.
2006-12-15 21:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by moondreameast 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forget about it. The real question is, "what do you want besides men?" Answer that, and everything will fall into place!
2006-12-15 21:46:19 · answer #7 · answered by S B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is really treating you like a queen , you may allow him to be your master in any sense , if not, do not allow him to raise his voice .
2006-12-15 21:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come again?
2006-12-15 21:20:15 · answer #9 · answered by Sid B 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋