If a man shows interest in you does it mean that he fancies you? Or is it just an ego thing?

Question

I'm a married woman, but I'm attracted like hell to a bloke slightly younger than myself.
Every now and then he approaches me in a flirtatious manner and his eyes just fixate onto me everytime our eyes meet, does that mean he's interested in me too?
He is dating someone at the moment, but when we happen to be hanging out in the same places, he turns from his date to speak to me. Why? Why are you guys so complicated? I bet it's all ego!

Answer 1

We are not very complicated, but we are competitive and in constant need of confirmation. (So, I guess we are not that different from women after all...).

Of course he is interested in you but that interest has a h**l of a long way to go before he will leave his current girlfriend (you see, men are also very comfortable and conservative). My bet is that he is only making sure that he is not losing his ability to flirt, hedging a possible break up in the future.

If you want him, put him against a wall, tell him what you want, and condition any next step with a full commitment from his side. If he cannot give that to you, you will have two choices, one is funnier, but potentially more painful, than the other:

1) Just let him go. He is a waste of time.
2) Join the fun. Play with him just as he plays with you. This could be painful if the whole thing turns into a one-sided love affair but it could also lead to a lot of fun and a deepened friendship or perhaps more.

Answer 2

I flirt with this girl I know all the time, even when her man is right there listening. I'd never actually make a move on her, and her boyfriend knows that, but that is her personality. I guess you could say it's an ego thing, but if you don't have a flirtatious personality all the time, he is probably trying to hook up with you. But it's probably not going to be a serious thing if both of you are taken.

Answer 3

Well look who's talking about ego's. You sound pretty sure of yourself too. Just because a man shows interest in talking to you doesn't mean he fancies you or that he has an ego. Maybe he just thinks your just a good conversationalist and he likes that about you. Don't don't read more then that into it. Besides why are you so concerned about his interest in you if your married?

Answer 4

it sounds like you areb also good at flirting but remember u are married. so dont even think about him.
besides u are older than him, doesnt it hurt some one calling u a sugar mummy?
and then he is in another relationship, meaning if he does it with you it will just be for exploring and hmmm, isnt want u want? i hope not so, just ignore the boy

Answer 5

SOunds like its your ego and not his. Men dont always have to be lusting after you - did you know they are capable of having platonic friendships as well. You are married, this guy is dating - stop behaving like a lovesick puppy and act your age xxxx

Answer 6

We are not complicated. We want sex and food. Now figure it out. Why is he giving you attention? He either wants sex, or food from you. We are very simple. Haven't you figured that out yet? And you say you're married. I feel sorry for your husband.

Answer 7

Sound to me like he wants the same thing than you do...

He wants you in bed badly and it is going to be a hot afternoon at your place one day.

Is it not lust wonderful?

How you deal with the consequences of that?
Well...you old enough to know what you are doing...
Or are you?

Answer 8

90% yes. But you have to judge each indivial case. There is still 10% . I think in your case something is going on. So it up to you.

Answer 9

Well kinda you shouldnt even be interested as your married.

Answer 10

Melissa,
Maybe he likes you. Hope it goes well, and you guys make it out!!!

xxxx