At this point I'm pretty confident she likes me. She's flirty but I definitely notice there's more of a thing with me compared to the other dudes in the office. I like her a lot too. The only problem is our office is small. Really small. I'm worried that if I pursue something with her, the heavy interaction at work will mess things up and cause a lot of awckardness which I hate.
I'm at a point in my life where I'm figuring a lot of things out, and I'm doing a lot for myself. I actually don't want to date anyone seriously right now. The thought of having to see someone sometimes 10 hours a day and then see them more is a bit troublesome.
This is not the first time I've asked about this. The last time I wasn't so sure I wanted to pursue something, but now I'm leaning towards it. I'm leaning towards doing something because I'm going to get another job by mid-next year. I'm willing to take some risks. My gut is telling me the time to act is now. What do you all think?
2006-12-15 20:42:28 · 17 answers · asked by acvader 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are going to get another job next year, then go for it. The only reason to hold back is if you are working together and seeing each other, or worse - it all goes wrong and you have to work together then.
Be careful about the casual fling part though. Don't go hurting her feelings just because you're not ready for a serious relationship. Just be upfront with her about stuff. You never know, you might end up feeling more strongly about her once you get to know her outside the office.
It's a risk, but I would say go for it.
2006-12-15 20:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by helly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you are not looking for anything serious right now and you do not want to settle down. If that is so then don't go for it with her. If you arn't ready to settle down then you shouldn't have a problem with finding other girls to talk to and be with. I think you just want her because you havn't had her and you like that "I wonder" energy flowing between you. If you hook up with her and then you have her and your ready to move on, this yes your going to destroy your job relationship. Unless she is a rare female and doesn't get attached and she acts like a guy. If you are sure you are moving to another job, then yes go for it. You will not be in the office much longer with her so it should not be a big deal. If you could see a potential relationship coming from it then go for it. Invite her out to something casual like maybe seeing an acoustic singer at a coffee shop...whatever your both into where you can talk out of work. Be open and ask her how she feels after a few out of work gatherings if you see the vibe is happening. Talk to her about what she wants. Do not hook up then ask her what she wants haha. Hope this helped.
Matt
2006-12-15 20:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you've answered the question yourself..
"'I'm at a point in my life where I'm figuring a lot of things out, and I'm doing a lot for myself. I actually don't want to date anyone seriously right now. The thought of having to see someone sometimes 10 hours a day and then see them more is a bit troublesome."
Don't do it. Wait until you've got another job, and then take action. If it was meant to be, it will happen then.
2006-12-15 20:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by Swou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be great if that's what you want. But if your concerned about the issues that it can cause since it's a small office then why not just keep to yourselves that you are dating. Maybe she'll be OK with it and once you get another job it won't matter that others in the office find out you two had been dating. Where I work people have done that as well. Once one of them found another job they didn't care who knew.
2006-12-15 20:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
someone's sucky artwork could also be someone else meal ticket. Here's an idea take a picture of the art work, post it on ebay or craigslist as "Genuine childhood art work of
2016-05-22 22:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her out for a friendly cup of coffee and then take it from there. If she doesnt want to have coffee then you really havent put too much on the line as it was only coffee. If things dont work out you can just stay friends
2006-12-15 20:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some people from work to all agree to go to a bar/restaurant together after work, and include her. You will be better able to asess the possibilities outside of the work environment.
If that's not possible, just remember the old saying: "Don't poop where you sleep."
2006-12-15 21:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by S B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Three sayings that carry more or less the same message:
Don't play close to home. Think of what can go wrong when you argue or split up.
Don't sh*t on your own porch!
Don't mix business and pleasure....
2006-12-15 20:46:55 · answer #8 · answered by Bart S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
juz remeber if things go bad between u 2, u have to deal with the concequences, if u know both of u can get over it, then GO 4 IT.
2006-12-15 20:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by otiscosy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dipping your pen in company ink is like playing with fire... Unless your psychic powers are fully functional and you know you and this person will not have a nasty parting of ways- avoid it.
2006-12-15 20:45:21 · answer #10 · answered by corrina_7462 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋