I have been giving most of xmas presents that my son wanted, but school marks have gone down the drain. And he is not putting effort in getting better. I don't feel like giving all these presents to him that I feel he doe not deserve. How to go about, although I don't want to let him miss xmas but also I don't feel that he should have whatever he wants.
2006-12-15 20:33:08 · 15 answers · asked by nininha 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
THE LOVE WITH WHICH U GIV A GIFT IS IMPORTANT NOT WHAT U GIVE !!!
WELL U LOVE UR SON DON'T U SO I KNOW ITS HARD ....
BUT STUDY IS WHAT IS MOST IMPORTANT FOR HIM AT THIS AGE !! SO GIVE HIM GIFTS LODS BUT THE GIFTS SHOULD B # BOOKS SENSEBLE ONES [ NOT DUELMASTER MAGAZINES PLZ ] # A DIARY WHICH SHOULD B FILLD IN BY HIM REGULARLY AS IT HELPS IN KIPING UR MIND FOCUSED ON ONE THING ....
MERRY CHRISTMAS !
2006-12-15 20:45:12 · answer #1 · answered by nomad 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well..this is Christmas..it is suppose be a time of joy and love..not a time to show somoene how upset you are over them. I'm sorry..but i feel it is not an approiapte time to show somoene you are not pleased with them. Put away the feelings of dissapoitment you have..do what you were planning to do for Christmas. Perhaps there is a reason your son's grades have been sliiping?..Is something bothering him? Does he talk to you openely? You muight need to go to the root of the problem to see what is happening in his life that you may not know about now. But, let Christmas be a time to show you love him..not to prove a point your upset right now.
2006-12-15 21:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Christmas Gifts are given from a place of love, not worth.
The idea of "not being worthy" of a particular gift, or group of gifts will send a message to your son that is extremely negative.
If you want to encourage better grades, that's great, but don't use holidays as a weapon...........
And no one should get "everything they want" for Christmas. If you've been doing that for 15 years, well....stopping right now would only prove to the boy that he has to earn your love, not earn rewards......
2006-12-15 20:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Christmas has nothing to do with school. School is finished for the year give him a break! He's 15 - his priority will be girls not economics. Just have a talk to him and tell him you want him to pull his grades up next year or you are going to have to take away his privledges ( like going to partys - oouchh).
2006-12-18 17:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel about him letting his grades slip. Take away privleges till he gets his grades up. Education is important in his life. As for the present thing, get him a couple of things. That was what my parents did.
2006-12-15 20:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by audrey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends...you don't have to necessarily withhold on presents or celebrating the holiday. But you should still probably ground him. Say for instance, if he gets a video game system, don't allow him to play it until he shows improvement w/ his grades. He'll live.
2006-12-15 20:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by Banana_cakes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just get him one really great gift. he is 15. he knows there is no santa
besides aren't the grand's getting him gifts anyway?
my sister only gets my nephew one gift because she knows the rest of the family is getting him two or three gifts.
but are his grades always poor or is something up? poor grades are always on the lists of signs for different things that can be wrong with a teen.
2006-12-15 20:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by kdf_333 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be more conservative, but I don't think that Christmas time is a time to make a huge stand on discipline.
I know how you feel. My daughter is spoiled rotten, too.
I think I'd just try to get through Christmas, THEN put the smack down on his azz. And, be consistent....stand your ground. It's gonna be tough going....due to his age. But, hang in there!
2006-12-15 20:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by treefrog 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think definately give him a few presents, but dont go over the top. maybe tell him if his marks were better he would of got more, and if they improve within the next few months, maybe buy a special present through the year only with improvement.
2006-12-15 20:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by otiscosy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I f you want those marks to go up, you need to stand firm and not let him have everything and definetly no video games or cell phone.
2006-12-15 20:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋