Omg, I am so furious. His friends were talking about taking a trip next year. So I told them don't plan on any promises with my bf cause last year he wasn't even there for our 1 yr anniversary. So my bf gives his "reason why" he wasn't there and ends his statement in a strong voice of "OK *****." He called me a ***** in a public resturant with his brother and 2 best friends right there...Needless to say I drove straight home without saying goodbye, i was so furious, embarrassed, humilated and hurt by him.That is so demeaning and disrespectful. he went out w/ his friends and, doesn't even act like he cares. So I text him and let him know im pissed and he said he didn't mean to be mean. but i asked him to ask his friends if calling me a ***** was out of line and they agreed with me. So y is he still out with his friends right now and not apologizing? what should i do? do i have a right to be upset or am i over reacting? i want to kick his *** lol We've been dating for a 1 1/2 yrs
2006-12-15 20:01:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok X, ya but I wasn't acting like a *****
I almost did slap him though...
2006-12-15 20:08:25 · update #1
Wait.... okay, I'm pretty sure his friends know that he missed our anniversary anyway. I guess I was basically saying, if he missed our one year, what made his friends think that he was gonna do this trip...
2006-12-15 20:14:33 · update #2
dee p, wondermom, faith, thank you!!
okay, guys he is coming to my house to apologize??!
2006-12-15 20:20:44 · update #3
peter, u obviously didnt read the post, and just assumed, and well all know about the word assume, sept it just makes an *** out of u... lol...
2006-12-15 21:56:36 · update #4
Definitely have a right to be angry. You have your boundaries, and he stepped over the line.
Best thing to do is sit down when you're not that angry and talk to him about how it made you feel and why it's unaccaptable behavior on his part, and if he wants to be in a relationship with you, he has to respect that boundary or he's history.
2006-12-15 20:06:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your only dating and he called you that! Wow it's time to get rid of him. He will only get worse with the more commitment! Obviously he has no respect for you or he would have never called you that. Obviously he doesn't even regret it or he would have come right over an appoligized not being out with his friends.
At least you only wasted a 1 and a half before you seen his true colors thank the good lord you weren't married then see this dispectible side.
2006-12-15 20:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guys act differently in front of friends to be cool or whatever. It was mean of him to say that, and to put you down like that in front of everyone. He needs to apologize. If he does this often, then you need to talk to him or get our. But if this is the first time, then talk about it. If it keeps happening, then something needs to be done. He was out of line, and he probably feels terrible about it. You've been together for a while, its worth working on.
2006-12-15 20:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by Dee P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okie honestly...i'd be so angry. iwould slap him right there and then! Since you two have gone out for at least 1 1/2 years, give him one chance to make it up to you, if not, leave him!!! If the guys loves you he will say sorry or make it up to u somehow, also its not worth going out with him for all this time if he still hasnt learned to respect u.
2006-12-15 20:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pretty much demasculated him in front of his friends, what did you expect? If you are THAT angry about a situation, stuff like that should be kept between you two. I agree, him forgetting your anniversary is pretty bad, but just don't put your personal life out there for everyone to hear about.
2006-12-15 20:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by Low Key 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't deserve this crap!!! You need to dump him and find someone else that would never dream of calling you this!!! You have every right to be pissed! Show yourself some respect and do not put up with it!!! Actions speak louder than words!! And, once you say something rude, you can never take it back!!!
2006-12-15 20:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing on this earth can be more humiliating than what he did with you and you still call him your friend and still thinking that you might be over-reacting? No, dear, no, just kick him out of your life for ever if you have slightest of dignity and self-respect.
2006-12-15 20:09:21 · answer #7 · answered by Abrar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dear am sorry but i guess he is nt the perfect guy for you .Hony this guy does nt respect you and does nt care abt you or he would had called you and apologised abt his behaviour.He would regret havin hurt your emotions ,this is nt done you should re-think abt your relation .Well at last all i can conclude is tat he does nt love you dear his actions speaks it loud and clear .Start a new life nothing is lost .every night has a dawn
2006-12-15 20:15:50 · answer #8 · answered by kreetee r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a woman, which means you don't have to put up with stuff like that from any little boy! Leave his a** behind!
2006-12-15 20:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by Jen Armero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That"s his boyz. Eventhough your thier, your a guess arround them and the same goes to him arround your girlz. come on , you know you should have waited to be alone. who do you think you are his mother?
2006-12-15 20:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by BERT G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋