So, I've been going out with this girl from work for 2 months now. We happen to sit close by, so I have to see her everyday ... but we only get to go out once a week, if that much. I do enjoy a lot her company, and admire her in many aspects, so I'm becoming quite involved with her. Problem is, she's apparently just seeing this as a "friendship with bonus". Basically it kinds of hurts to see that i'm very low on her priorities -- I sometimes try to get her out to another movie, or restaurant, or trip, and I always get some kind of very polite "unfortunately i'm busy" for answer, besides the weekly meeting. So my questions are two: Should I insist on it ? My experience tells me that this wouldn't work, but I might not have used the right approach, so ideas are very welcome! Should I drop it and move on ? -- after all I'm sure if she doesn't want me, there others that do :). But stopping to think on her, I know, will be hard for a few weeks at least. Ideas here ? Thanks a lot!
2006-12-15
19:40:28
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lourmm
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Many good comments, and they seem to reflect what I think as well. So I just sent a polite and open email, telling about me wanting to get to the next level, and asking what she thinks/feels about it.
If she's not up to it, I'll stop this and move on. I've had "friendships with bonus before", but with people I was more neutral about. When I'm passionate about a girl (usually there is also admiriation involved), it just doesn't seem to work, too much pain.
About if it is the man or the woman that wants to take the relationship to the next level, I have to say my experience have been balanced: sometimes have been me, sometimes have been the woman I'm with.
thanks a lot for the answers. I'll wait a couple of days for the outcome of this and post here, before I select the best answer :)
2006-12-15
20:09:09 ·
update #1