How to cure a gay?

Question

I am now friends with a nice man who works in a church, but just yesterday he confessed to me that he is gay. I told him he would go to hell, but he won't listen. No one in the church knows about it. How can I help him stop being gay, and if he won't change, should I tell the church? Thanks!

Answer 1

Only 1 way to cure him. Go on a fag drag.

Answer 2

As an Atheist, Libertarian, and Social Scientist, I am still at odds with the issue of homosexuality. Some studies in Psychology suggest that some people can change their orientation, while most say otherwise. Reality is that homosexuality has become a political issue where even suggesting homosexuality may be maladaptive is suicide, so real research in the field is hard. Just a few months (or maybe year already) Dr. Spitzer that took homosexuality off the DSM had a study that said some homosexuals can change. Because it is a politcal hot button, Spitzer has now been silenced and refuses to make further studies.

Having a sociology degree myself I can tell you that studies on homosexuality about sociology are extremely limited, and many of them don't make strong conclusions. Either way, a sociologist is NOT a professional that should talk on the matter; instead it should be a psychologist. (My double major was with Psychology, so I can assure you Psychology is the only authority that can give a real picture).

Nevertheless, this man told this to you in confidence. You need to give him that trust he expected. If you go around being a homophobe, there is no way in hell he will ever want to even consider change or anything else. He will leave the church, and you will instantly become a scumbag that nobody else will want to entrust their secrets.

My suggestion is: F-u-c-k off. Let the man be, and be his friend. If he ever wants to change or anything, it'll be his choice. Any action you take against him (or "for his good") will end up backfiring you.

Answer 3

First, God calls it an abomination. And the only "cure" is to take them out and put them to death (Lev 20:13).

But since so many in the world consider themselves smarter and wiser than God Himself, its against man's law to even look at them funny.

But here's the good part - according to Christianity, Christians have abolished God's holy Torah and so His commandments are now ignored. So according to the Church, being homosexual is just fine. Since Christianity abolished God's holy word, Christians can now be homosexual, adulterers, murderers, gossipers, necromancers and what ever else was once prohibited by God.

So, no, don't tell the church, that's his decision if he so chooses. Is he going to hell? Sure, along with every other Christian who ignores God's commandments. Is there some way to "help" him? No because nothing you do or say will convince him. He has to make a choice himself as to what he wants to do. Sure you can point out verses like Lev 18:22 and 20:13, but if he wishes to be gay, he'll do as he pleases, no matter what God or man says.

Answer 4

Please read this carefully. There is no way to cure homosexuality for being different is not an illness. He didnt pick to be the way he is, to live in fear of people finding out his secret. Why percucute him when his is your brother. He confided in you who he really is, but you are still willing to rat him out to your community? Please give him a chance. Does Christinanity not preach about accepting everyone no matter who they are? How can you tell someone they are going to hell just because of who they are. Please be open minded. Isnt that what your Jesus Preached? If anyone else Finds out about his homosexuality, Please defend him. Be a modern day saint. Sure it will be difficult, but what good acts arent? Sometimes the Hard thing and the Right thing are the same. May Peace be with you

Answer 5

Complicated issue. I think the title of your post was unfortunate, though, and betrays the actual subject matter, which is, what, as a man's friend, do you do about letting the church know or not.

I think in this case that you have to let the man face his own consequences in life. It's his decision to go to church, it should be his decision how he wants to carry on within that relationship. You would be overstepping your bounds to inform anyone, other than someone for you to talk to about your own personal concerns.

~Best

Answer 6

That guy feels guilty enough without you having to further traumatize him by trying to get him ostracized from the church. And you call yourself his friend?

Leave him be as a 'nice man,' as you called him, and to live his own life. Gay isn't cured it's not illness or anything wrong. Seriously, sometimes this world seems like it's still in the Middle Ages!

Answer 7

UMM great delema. You can never change anybaody from their actions. But since it is against Christain beliefs then that presents the challenge. If he is in a position of leadership then he must be an example to others. Talk with a minister (from another church) that might help.

Answer 8

Where to start...homosexuality is not a disease or disorder. Although there are many organizations that do try to "cure" homosexuality. There is no cure as there is no cure for pedophiles either. Maybe consider this possibility, a homosexual is of no direct threat to you. How would you feel if your daughter/son etc. married a "cured" homosexual? Fact is there is no cure, even a "recovering" homosexual will always have attraction to the same sex. What kind of life and how fair would that be to your family member? This man trusted you, appreciate this, he put trust in you. Let him figure life out for himself.

Answer 9

don't listen to these gay retards.

gays are uncurable, they're infested with an awful disease that makes them crave the same thing they have between their legs. it's gross i know. in order to cure him you should try showing him gay porn and while you watch it just continue to comment on how disgusting it is that he thinks it's as "hot" as a brawny man ****** a hot broad.

god bless

-jesus christ

Answer 10

How can you decide who is or isn't going to hell in this matter? Are you saying you are God to judge others this way?

Why are you so worried about his problems when you have enough of your own to fix?

Clean out your own closet before going through others.
He who casts the first stone, let him be without sin.

I think you should spend more time seeking God in these matters and asking Him to help you see how you are not better. The church picks out specific sins to freak people out, truth is everybody has sins that are highly offensive. We are equal and filthy in sin. God will always fix you first before worrying about others. Jesus did not cast out the harlot who believed in him. He accepted her. He hung out with the sinners remember?

Answer 11

Not possible.

And, you need to be cured of your bigotry. Nowhere in the Bible does it say that gays are to be ostrasized and flamed. Jesus said to accept everyone and if you cannot do that, you are going against His word.

Might as well do the same to the others: the adulterers, the drunks, the pregnant teens, etc. for you're not a REAL Christian, lady.