Question Details: He came home the end of July 2006, from a Christian Academy where he lived for a year. My husband and I sent him for alot of reasons...being disrespectful, rude, blurting, just all around bad attitude. He has been home 5 months now and I feel that the academy did not help him at all, in the beginning I truly believe that it was just a front to come home.....now I am not sure what to do or where to turn, he has gotten worse, he is so angry and mad at everyone, bad attitude, mean to our dogs, just down right hateful, ungrateful, unsociable, lies all the time, can not trust him .....he has been to thearpists for several years now....He is on meds for ADHD....but does not help......it has gotten to the point where no one wants to be around him, his bad attitude brings us down.....I really do not know what else to do. I love my son very much, just not sure how to help him anymore.
2006-12-15 18:31:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Personally??? I don't think drugs of any sort are the right answer for our children. Has he ever stopped taking the drugs and if so, what was his attitude like?
Secondly, save your money and stop sending him to the Therapists, especially if you are not seeing an improvement in the behavior.
How old is your son? Do you think he will grow out of it????
My children (boy and girl) were both a bit "angry" and would lash out when they were younger. My son got involved in football in high school and took his aggressions out on the field and he is an absolute angel today and very respectful and just a total joy.
My daughter on the other hand is totally different and still tends to have an attitude, which just flares up at any given moment, but I quickly remind her that she is the child and I am the adult and she calms down and/or goes in her room and shuts the door and deals in her own way and I leave her alone.
How does your son and husband interact with one another? I found that my son's father use to get on his nerves and that would also aid in his anger. Once he was separated from his dad and involved in sports, he was ok.
2006-12-15 18:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by Staci C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You son may be acting out because he is upset that you send him away in the first place. Didn't you send him there because you or he thought he was gay.? What that ever spoken about.?
I am not a parent that believes in ADHD. I DO NOT belittle parents that do but for myself I am not comfortable with the,.
He what 15 or 16 now.?
Sometimes teens are angry, I think it comes from just being a teenager, It may have something to do with their brains still growing.
Counseling is very good but I think the WHOLE family needs to go, not just him. Think of it from his point. Only he is going. May make him think you guys are thinking that he is the only one with a problem and part of it is the family and they way ever one treat each other.
The one thing you might try doing is sit him down and ask him what he thinks is wrong. Ask him if he is happy or sad and why he thinks he is that way.?
Ask him how he would like things and what he thinks would make things better.
It might help you understand a little more about what he is thinking.
You also have to understand that most teen agers are ungrateful. It comes with their entitlement personality. They think they are aloud things and wonder why people don't just hand then everything they want.
I have come to learn over the years that teenagers are like kids in school. They are BULLIES. They do what they do cause they know they can get away with it.
2006-12-15 19:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
misunderstaning always results like this. try to spend more time with him and care and concern his genuine problems. isolation may bring bad attitude. as a mother u r supposed to extend ur love to him. it means try to understand him .console him. understand what exactly worrying him. discuss with u r husband. he also has to give his parental affection. no medicine on earth will suffice to bring the bad boy to good boy except u parents. dont quarrel with him. listen to him understand him convince him the probable good and bad for every thing. it is a slow process. u and u husband never quarrel before u r son. care and nurturing bring possitive attitude in u r boy slowly. patience is more required for u. all the best.
2006-12-15 18:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by sabu 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a pal is many times close in age and is extra in all possibility to attraction to close how the youngster feels. dad and mom and youthful ones have a era hollow and ought to can also punish youthful ones. youthful ones will visit their associates for help.
2016-11-26 22:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Needs a good Spanking.
2006-12-15 18:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by Latino_Lifestyle 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
call Dr. PHil....!!!! no but really
2006-12-15 18:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋