my bro is smoking. he admitted to tryin it (with his friends who do smoke) to my rents and i have seen him do it. i can also smell it on his clothes when he gets home from wrk. i want to tlk to him about it, but he always gets on the defensive when i even say hi. how can i tlk to him about this?? pls help. it wil be greatly appreciated. :)
2006-12-15 18:16:53 · 6 answers · asked by nikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, depending on how young your brother is, I would start by showing him some graphic details, through some brochures, that have facts on smoking and the consequences. I think when someone that young sees it in front of them, they might get a better understanding, because the images are pretty brutal and real, not like 'words' that they can turn off, really quickly.
2006-12-15 18:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by argamedius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your brother to lunch, or get him into a place where you can have a heart-to-heart conversation. It's important to realize that his smoking is probably a symbol of independence to him. If that's the case, you're probably experiencing his reactions for this reason. Explain to him that you're concerned, but don't list a million reasons for not smoking (your parents probably do that, as does everyone else). Tell him that you love him and that you want him around for awhile. More often than not, the "simpler, more heartfelt" type of conversation works.
Good luck.
2006-12-15 18:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by Track One R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can try in any way possible. You can also leave information about how bad it is. But it wont change things.
Smoking is like any other addiction...Very difficult to break.
And when one is questioned about it, will become very annoyed, defensive, and angry. If he's old enough to do it, you will not be successful in changing his habits. HE is the only one who will be ale to do that. And I expect he will not want to.
2006-12-15 18:24:30 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since even saying hi is a problem, you need to step it up and act serious. Just tell him that both of you need to talk and its urgent otherwise i can see he gonna give you trouble
2006-12-15 18:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by ωнєη уσυ ѕмιℓє уσυ мαкє мє ѕмιℓє 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try all you want, you won't change his mind. Addiction, only he can quit and only his desire will allow that
2006-12-15 18:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy him a nicotine patch thingy for Xmas.
2006-12-15 18:18:45 · answer #6 · answered by leaves 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋