well like i said i have feelings for a guy i been dating for 3 yrs. he has lied, walked out on me to do the things he wants, looks at other women while im standing there, now he has come back acting like he wants things to work.he even missed his jobs christmas party to stay at home with me, and he never misses those christmas parties. im not trusting him at all right now. he has temperarily acted like he has cared before. how do i know he is sincere now. should i really just give up on a three yr relationship. i stopped having sex because i dont want the risk of getting hurt. should i wait to see if he has changed? how long does it really take to see if someone has changed. he is a dj on the side and he has left me multiple of times to go do a party and now he is saying he is going to stop for a while to work on us. what should i do? or should i just let it all go for real?
2006-12-15 18:14:52 · 5 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh god yes. let him go. he is worthless and has some personal issues. unfortunately he needs to tap you dry emotionally so he can feel good about himself. he probably only comes back when he feels like sh*t but will never tell u that because he wants u to be the vulnerable one. its like a leech feeding to survive. im sure u have a beautiful soul and personality and a whole lot to give so i suggest i stay far away from him before he sucks u dry and leave u a mess only to move on to the next person. its all about power and control...its time to take urs back.
2006-12-15 19:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by nya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like liars at all. You deserve better, as it doesn't sound like he respects you. He might be using you for sex, but the respect isn't there. Who needs to live like that? If it's a bad relationship, it doesn't matter how long you've been in it, so don't worry about the time issue at all. If it's ultimately better for you to leave, take your chance, girl! Are you not having sex with him? That's a sure way to know there is a problem. Leave him as soon as you can. You know you could turn all clingy and tag along when he goes to his DJ jobs and watch his behavior for yourself, but I don't think I'd waste anymore time on him. Good luck!
2006-12-15 18:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by Genius Squirrel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He's changing out of Guilt and as soon as you put your gaurd down and become relaxed in the relationship, he'll be back to his ways again. Seems like you're losing feelings for him too since you're not giving him sex and most of all..., trusting him. There's no wait time for change, either he's did it or not. If he did, then he'll ask you out to ALL of his D.J. gigs, even if you want to go or not. Listen to that little voice in the back of your head, let Him Go!!!! Take Care
2006-12-15 18:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by Bygtree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bail!!! Now!!!! I know exactly what youre talking about. DJ??? Really shouldve seen that coming. Be careful or youll end up "One of Jons Girls" you know the ones, dating a guy whos dating half the town, and they dont know it. Hes just lulling you. 3 years and still having probs, move on. Hes not worth it.
2006-12-15 18:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by new81complex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not hanging on for nothing, you are hanging on to be abused and hurt, some more. Tell this guy to beat it, and never darken your doorway again. You have wasted 3 years on a jerk who has contently shown that he doesn't care for you, only for himself and his own needs. This type of man does not change, he will go back to his bad old ways when he once again has what he wants; you, being all sweet and lovey. Run, run, run!!!
2006-12-15 18:23:56 · answer #5 · answered by azkat111 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋