What can i do?

Question

How do i take things easy and calm down myself when anyone is shouting unnecessorily on me? I do not want to take such things seriously to my heart but still i fail in doing so and and i tend to loose my peace of mind....Can anybody give some tips on how do i del with such situation positively?

Answer 1

I recommend using something sometimes referred to as detachment. Imagine yourself rising above your situation so that you can view yourself and others involved in the argument from above. Then, while looking down on your situation, ask yourself what the person who represents you in the situation could do to be viewed as the the one who has the superior mentality. Your answer will, I hope, always be to be calm, collected, and wise.

So, to deal with such situations, be on your best behavior. Listen to whatever the emotional person is shouting, and respond in a positive way. One response you may want to consider is to tell the other person that he appears to be unhappy with you for some reason, and that you are sorry to see that, and hope that he can explain what you might have done to cause him to be so unhappy so that you can hopefully make things right again. After he gives you his explanation, your goal would be to difuse the situation. Anyone watching the incident would be impressed with you and consider you to be the one with the superior mentality.

The words that should guide you in such situations are "Allow your mind rather than your emotions to govern your actions." When a person is being emotional, they've allowed their emotions (rather than their mind) to govern their actions. You need to make the smarter choice, and focus your mind on difusing the situation.

If you can't do that, I'd recommend learning to block people out, walk away, try to surround yourself with nicer people, try to avoid emotional people, etc.

Answer 2

Basically, keep away from such a situation, slow down, calm down, relax, rejuvenate and reflect on the possible causes for that situation to have arisen in the first instance!
For a change, next time someone shouts at you, return it with a vengeance! Then, say sorry and make it clear that you don't like to be shouted at anymore!

Answer 3

I think I have the same thing going on with me sometimes with my job(not saying that thats were yours is coming from) .Im a manufactoring tech (lead person,set up etc) and alot of times when things arent going right I get blamed for it and yelled at sometimes.After reading your question I think I also figured out how to solve my problem to.I'm going to just start laughing like I dont really care what they are yelling at me for.If they get more mad I'm just going to laugh that much more.And another thing I try sometimes to is try to find a happy place to go to .Be it a memory of a good time,playing your favorite song in your mind or just think its all going to get better soon.Maybe and hopefully one of these will help you out to if you try it.

Answer 4

Reverse the thought process. Instead of feeling like your the one to blame, ask yourself what causes them to shout at you. If your doing nothing wrong, then maybe whoever your talking about has a problem. Be bold and confront them by telling them, You don't appreciate be shouted at and then tell them you're concerned that they may have a serious problem dealing with others.

Answer 5

How Can You Find Inner Peace? :
- The Search for Inner Peace ...
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2005/7/1/article_01.htm

Answer 6

Calm down, I was a sensitive child and belive me I have seen alot of what you dscribe,the best thing is talk to a friend..........otherwise your are gonna be depressed all the time...........and it will seriouly hurt your personality.........moreover do things that make you happy.........go places where you like...............Life is not about being Sad............

and if you ever feel Life is not worth living any more........help someone.........you will see how much better you will feel afterwards..................my e-mail is [e-mail] you ever need me