what do you do when your angry?

Question

Me and my family were supposed to go out so i got all excited and stuff but then we found out my bro. hads to study so now were not going and when i went near the front door to get something i found out my sister left and then i rememberd i have a school event and asked if i could go and she said the car wont be back in two hours and this isnt the first time my family let me down. its becoming os constant and whenever my mom sends me to someone who can helpme with my anger i chase them away with all my anger when its her who is really the problem cause since my dad died i started getting all these problems with peers and school and grades and i jst want to have fun now that im still a kid and i know i dont have my father to help me anymore convince my mom to take me places but i find ways but its her who always stops me.

Answer 1

I'm sorry your household is in such a mess since your father passed away. They really should be more considerate of your feelings. If she is the reason you're mad, you should let her know what she is doing to upset you or make you sad. I think you might be really more sad than mad. That is still grief talking there. The problems of adjusting to a loss usually involve tension in everyday things like you mentioned, school settings etc. Just don't feel like you are all alone in this situation, ok? I bet you can find other ways to get places, ride with friends etc. If you just can't get your family to work with you, then you really need to figure out a way to bypass needing to rely on them. It will make you feel more in control and better about yourself if you can do that. Good luck!

Answer 2

Dear Someone. Learn to love yourself. You are truly wonderful and great and wise and fun and all that good stuff. If you truly love yourself then other people really can't hurt you...because you won't give them the power to hurt you. Now about anger. Usually we get angry at ourselves. When you feel angry with someone, ask yourself where that anger came from. Why is it you are angry? It may be that you have identified some part of yourself in the situation , some part that you don't like...and you are really angry with yourself. Were you angry because you hoped something would happen and when it didn't you decided it was your fault for wishing it would happen? Did this then make you angry? Usually anger comes from within and is really directed at ourselves. Think very carefully about it. Because if you can recognize the anger is directed at yourself then you can simply decide to drop the anger and accept yourself. Move into honoring yourself. You are great. Recognize it. And don't be attached to outcomes...particularly since you have no control over them. You can only control your own emotions...so do it. And enjoy life. Look for the fun and remember it, live for it. As for your dad, keep talking to him. He will always be your dad, even if he's not here any more. Talk to him, tel him what's happening and ask him for help. He'll answer. He will always be there for you. You just have to ask. Have a great life.

Answer 3

u have to control it.
if u love someone from ur heart u will not get angry.
if u want others also to do something u won't get angry.
if u shell down ur ego u will be cool.

Answer 4

sometimes they say love is more than an emotion, its a state of mind.
so i think love is a sick joke, and the combination of things that happened and failed to happen leaves me more cynical than before. ultimately, one has to walk alone in this journey called life.

Answer 5

Just take a deep breath and move on.
being angry is not gonna do anything to help you.

Answer 6

Its a part of growing up, loosing your temper won't solve anything.

Answer 7

can I have the condensed version please?