I spend most of my time at my bf's where he lives with his sweet old fashion parents and older 27 year old, jobless, dope feen, disrespectful slob brother. The brother eats all the food and never pays for it, doesn't lift a finger and has his family in fear around him only cause they dont want him blowing up. They have called the cops and was in peace the few months he was there, but once he's out same thing. They've kicked him out, but he stalks and harassess his younger brother (my boyfriend) to point where he just cant take any more. He's even rang the doorbell all night until someone let him in. Even if the cops are called again, he vanishes a day or two, but returns to the house begging his mom to let him in and he'll change. They don't know what to do and his behavior brings the whole family down and makes things worse for them in various ways. Any idea how to get rid on this guy in any other way than they've already tried?
2006-12-15 17:38:33 · 9 answers · asked by Toni M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I forgot to mention there is a restraining order already filed, but even if the cops are called, he'll just hide out until their gone
2006-12-16 20:23:51 · update #1
Restraining order.
2006-12-15 17:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by castle h 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a horrible situation. The boy has no business being there, and his parents don't deserve that treatment. They can get him admitted to some kind of rehab place, but the parents who own the house are the ones who are going to have to practice tough love, not your boyfriend. Can your boyfriend move in with you? Sometimes, you are too close to family to be happy. You get sucked into all the mess, you know? I'm a very loyal family person, so it sounds like they might hate to do something tough, but I think it would do your boyfriend a world of good to get some distance from this situation. If his parents aren't going to be tough, he doesn't have to suffer too. It's just really not his problem. His brother is a grown man, not some 10 year old, right?
2006-12-15 17:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by Genius Squirrel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Genius squirrel is well named. Tough love is the order of the day and that will definitely include a restraining order. Following a family meeting (with him present) it must be made clear what the new rules are: no contact, restraining order in place, police to be called immediately on presentation. From that point on, no one must relent. Expect threats, suicide threats, even violence. Just hold fast and call the police. You must force him to run out of patience before you do.
2006-12-15 17:54:04 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously his parents arent being firm enough. He's no longer a child. Thus they have the right to evict him, as well as acquiring a restraining order, which would legally disallow him to contact them or be on their property.
2006-12-15 18:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Order of protection or restraining order. They parents could check into having him committed as well.
2006-12-15 17:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by Star 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Blood relation is always very dear to any mom , now fly needs to put him in some rehabilitation unit for a couple of years or send him to some meditation / yoga center to get correct his thinking .
2006-12-15 18:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop answering the door to him when he comes back claiming he will change. Until they turn him away for good he will keep coming back.
2006-12-15 17:41:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a restraining order?
2006-12-15 17:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by beth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gun
2006-12-15 17:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋