This guy wants to have sex and i like him alot, but i dont know if hes gonna leave me or not after.
2006-12-15 17:19:13 · 25 answers · asked by Lala 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he likes you, he will stay till your ready
2006-12-15 17:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by jokerswild 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Clearly, you want him to hang around and not leave you, right? Then having sex now will only leave you with a few options and they are all bad. Let's say you do have sex with him...
1.) He will be getting everything he wants, pretty soon you will be cooking, cleaning and so forth for him. Then he will never commit to you because if he is getting everything he wants, why would he take on further responsibility of a committed relationship? It's like getting free cable, why would you call the company and offer to start paying?
2.) He will not really respect you. You have your reservations and gave into him. How can anyone respect sleeping with someone so they won't leave? You can't respect someone who appears desperate.
3.) You get pregnant and bring a poor child into this hard world possibly without a dad. Dad's are very important for children.
Girls constantly get it backwards. They think a guy who wants to have sex with them loves them. Guys are horny creatures, it's in their nature. It is NOT love! It's instant gratification. If a guy really did love you, he would marry (commit) to you first. He would love you so much that he would be willing to wait for you. Then you know he'll be true to you.
2006-12-16 01:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by Get it Together 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts the answer is no!
Look is this guy really cares about you he will be willing to wait till you are sure. If not well he will leave you if you do have sex and he will leave you if you don't.
Just say no!
2006-12-16 01:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by raredawn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to marry u first then only u can let him take charge how many times he wants ok!If he really loves u he will marry u.If u let him take charge now,there will be no surprises on your honey moon.He will get bored of u.If he leave u after,u are the one will suffer.
2006-12-16 01:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by amadeus_denis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait and see if he is the type that will stick around. It depends if you want him to though, are you looking for a one time thing or are you maybe looking for a relationship? I think you shouldnt do anything until you are sure about his intentions. If he does leave you after, it will make you feel used and like crap, and believe me from personal experience, it does not feel good.
2006-12-16 01:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lizeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl take care and you only LIKE him and he is not your husband and all that, what if he is just wanting to give you diseases he is carrying. AND believe me why buy a cow when the milk is cheap? Yes he is gioing to spill sperm and leave, they all do and I have heard this story so many times before - so DON'T the fact that you ask the question with doubts in your mind is a mere answer in itself.
2006-12-16 01:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by tracey s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he will leave you. This is so tricky w/guyz.
They make you feel that they r so into you!! Then they drop you like trash!!
You have needs too. Decide for yourself do you want to sleep w/ him?? And ALL the risk involved.
Men can be so, so , sweet to get in the bed, but the very next day , they can be totally different!! Just guard your heart & don't do EVERYTHING.
2006-12-16 01:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems the answer is very simple !!
If you're not sure whether he'd leave or stay, then 'NO' you should not have sex with him.
If you gave yourself to him with all the uncertainty you have about him, then you're practically acting like a 'LUSH', or to put it bluntly,
a whore..
NOW YOU DECIDE what you think you should do!!
2006-12-16 01:26:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the 21st century. Be up front with him. Tell him how you feel and what your looking for. Depending on your age (you sound young) you should see some of the signs of what he is really after. Good luck
2006-12-16 01:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by Chicago Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want find out wait, because if he really cares for you he will respect your desicion to wait until you feel you are ready, dont give yourself to him if you are unsure, your body is the one most precious thing a girl can have.
2006-12-16 01:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by Chev 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey its your body and your decision. Do NOT let him decide for you! Its your life and its your responsibility to make your own decisions. Stay strong and assertive. If he acts like a jerk about it then he is a jerk and you're better off without him.
2006-12-16 01:21:14 · answer #11 · answered by compendious 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋