My mother was diagnosed with cancer and within 2 weeks she was gone. I'm really having a hard time coping. I am mad at everyone. I wan't my mom back. Life doesn't feel worth living but it's still here. How do I live without my best friend?
2006-12-15 16:52:49 · 9 answers · asked by jacksonvillegarycollins 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm very sorry to hear that. It will take awhile just remember what would your mother want you to do now? It is ok to to be mad god took you mother, your best friend but you would have not wanted her to suffer. I'm going through the same situation my mother has had cancer since she was 18 and 47 now. I see her struggles and wish she was not in pain. You need to live for her to have kids so you can tell them story's of her.
Time heals all
God be with you
2006-12-15 22:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your mother. I can relate. I lost my mom, she also was my best friend. She died back in March 2003 from cancer.
I can understand your feelings about being mad at everyone. Being angry is a part of the grieving process.
I was sad and mad and even feeling guilty for the longest time after she died. I thought the tears would never stop...... I couldn't understand how life could go on without her, or how I was going to go on without her.
Getting through this will seem impossible. It's been over 3 years since my mom died and I still cry at least once a month for her, I am still lonesome for her, and I always will be. But it does get easier. I promise you.
Talking about your feelings and loss will help. Please seek counseling. That's what I did. I had to, I thought I was going to lose it. My counselor helped me to see and think about things differently. There are support groups online as well that might help you.
You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Take care and please don't give up.
2006-12-15 17:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by sweetness200574 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sincerely sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you extremely.
I don't think it ever goes away.
I lost my grandmother this year - it's been almost 8 months...and I JUST recently feel that life is a bit more bearable. The pain will never go away....I just think it just lessens a wee bit. Give yourself time.....Anger and life not being worth living are all normal and real feelings...just make sure you have someone you can talk to...and let yourself cry cry cry....
I would suggest writing or typing down your thoughts. I typed a letter to my grandmother...and told her how I felt...it was the starting process of things being reality for me...I think for the longest time - I kept just not feeling it was real...and coping was so hard...so I wrote her a letter and told her all that I was feeling and YES how angry I was that she left me - and how close we were and how I wanted her back. I just kept saying over and over to God - I just want her back - so I would suggest to try that...that releases some of the feelings and allow you to put them on paper, and yet have them to read again, if need be.
Just mourn and think about getting into a therapy group with people who have lost their mothers...that was just suggested recently to me, as I am still having troubles coping some days - get in a group and talk about the pain and hurt...with those who share the similar loss.
My prayers are with you.
And no - time doesn't heal all wounds... And don't you ever be in fear of losing her memories and all that you had with her... They will forever be with you.
2006-12-15 17:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've had a lot of loss in my life too. I lost MANY MANY people, including my father while I was still in High School, so I know how you feel.
I'm 26 now, and let me tell you the TRUTH. Not a day goes by that I don't think of my dad. I still miss him VERY much. But I HAD to move on with my life.
You only lost your mom a couple weeks ago. It is going to take a while before you start to move on.
Its going to be extremely difficult, but you can do it!
If you need anything, or have any questions, I'd be happy to try to help you, email me anytime, just click on my profile and email me through there.
2006-12-15 17:01:39 · answer #4 · answered by Raven 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Time will be your best friend. I went through the same problem when a close family member of mine died. Don't be mad at everyone, it pointless and that'll just make your mourning process worse. It's like stacking a problem on top of another.
Time will tell all. Everyone is different so I can't give you an exact number.
2006-12-15 16:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by dark_roses13 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its very very hard i lost my mom when i was 21 and had a 2 year old she was crazy about her grandson, she had heart failure and i blamed the hospital i was hostile towards people i was just mean to everyone, i think that the only thing i can tell you is it just takes time, it has been 25 years now and i still think about her,don't turn away from your other family members spend time with them and make sure they know you love them,visit your moms grave take flowers to her sit and talk if you want, any thing that makes you feel better do it,
2006-12-15 17:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm very sorry for your loss. the same thing happened to me. my mom passed away when i was 16 from cancer- progressed very quickly. it's going to take you a long time to feel better. give it time. you'll begin to think about it less. you will never obviously forget. i still have my days where i feel like it was yesterday that i saw her (even though it's been 14 years). it will get better for you
2006-12-15 17:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it'll never stop hurting. no one will ever be able to feel the void in your life. you just have to try to go about your life cause you know she would want you to. my mom got sick on a wednesday and died 5 days later. i think about her everyday. when i feel like crying, i cry. it's normal to be mad and think that it's unfair. i'd like to tell you it'll get better with time but it really doesn't. you'll always feel pain. find someone to lean on (maybe her sister or a sibling) you don't have to deal with this alone. it helps to go back to work and get back into your daily routine.
2006-12-15 17:24:38 · answer #8 · answered by sweettee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww..
im sorry,.
well i guess you can devote your time on other things and ignore the fact that she's gone forever..
over tym itll heal though..
when you have lyk a family of your own..
2006-12-15 16:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by ria 3 · 0⤊ 5⤋