OK so my ex- boyfriend is 25 and I'm 21. We dated for a month then HE ended it saying that he's "busy". Our relationship was very innocent, it never went past kissing cuz he knew that I wanna save myself for marriage. Neways, we both go to the same university, I'm an undergrad while he's a grad student. I was crossing the street and he called my name and we talked for a bit. At the end of the conversation he asked me "to give him a shoutout if I ever wanted to "hang out". I said said bye & walked away. That was a month ago & he never brought it up even on msn, thus I thought it was just fake. Today I got the biggest surprise, I logged on msn and he said hi right away. He asked me my plans for the winter break & I did, then he told me that he's gonna have a long break & travel. Then he said "we should meet up". I said sure & he asked me when was good for ME, I did, & now we're meeting up next week.He said he'll call me the night before. WHY does he wanna see me now?
2006-12-15 16:34:59 · 11 answers · asked by sweet kisses 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is this just a "hang out" for him or does he wanna try to get back together?
Don't say bootycall cuz he knows my strict views on premarital sex.
2006-12-15 16:35:52 · update #1
well... i think that he still has feelings for you.... even if they are "innocent feelings" for you. meaning, that he really liked you as a person , and still values your friendship. if you still like him, you are definately moving towards the right path to getting him back
try being friends again first. the second shot at a romance can be just as good as the first time...trust me, i know. ;) good luck in whatever you decide to do.. and the fact that you are saving yourself for marriage is sacred... i think that you are automatically the "winner" in this whole situation, however it turns out... good job!
2006-12-15 16:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by apple martini 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does everyone think he only wants sex? Could it be - oh miracle of miracles - that he actually has genuine feelings for you and feels a need to be with you?
Give me a break. Guys are not just friggin sex machines. Give him some credit for having other needs. Maybe you meet those in him. Even consider it?
2006-12-15 16:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants to be friends? It's not unheard of, ya know.
Maybe there is something about your personality he likes. I personally stay friends with a lot of people that are iffy because they can make me feel better when they are around.
I have a friend whom I dated for a month and we are very good friends (never went past kissing). So if you both are similar it could just be him looking for a friend.
good luck
2006-12-15 16:38:48 · answer #3 · answered by devinthedragon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something came up suddenly and he wanted to tell you in private when he is comfortable enough. He just wants to hesitate a little longer before telling you the breaking news.
2006-12-15 16:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
either 1. he wants to still be friends (i do this with all my exgirlfriends... if we arnt in a relationship anymore there is no reason we cant be friends
or 2. he wants to restart what you had (im doing that as we speak, im trying to get a hold of this girls number who i really liked and havnt seen in 3 years.
2006-12-15 16:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by ryanisalifestyle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
= It sounds like he likes you and wants to catch up. Is there any possibility that he really was busy? Writing a graduate thesis or something or maybe he had to research and do some project that would get him through school?
2006-12-15 16:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wanna get back to you.....probably he realized that he truly likes/loves you and so he's finding time to devote some of his time with you now eventhough he's busy....meet him up and get things cleared between the two of you.
2006-12-15 16:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by diana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD MAKE ANY THING OUT OF IT, HE MAY WANT TO
HANG OUT. SO IF YOU WANT TO , THEN GO FOR IT, HE
KNOW HOW YOU FEEL SO, THERE SHOULD BE NO
PROBLEMS. SO JUST HAVE A GOOD TIME AND DONT MAKE
ANYTHING OUT OF THIS, IT COULD BE JUST AS HE STATED
HE WANT TO HANG OUT WITH YOU.
2006-12-15 16:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants to see if you changed your mind about having sex with him.
2006-12-15 16:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
he most likely is seeing if you'll give in a give it to him...thats why hes too busy too see you. i dont see whats the matter...what if you never get married? why wait till marriage...?
2006-12-15 16:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋